My Values + Feminist Business Practices

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My Values +

Feminist Business

Practices

I hold a systemic analysis and my feminism is inclusive and about justice (no white feminism, thankyouverymuch).

I’m here for

love and JUSTICE

not love and light.

I’m more excited about building and sharing power + resources than I am about “empowerment“.

KD – Floral Letters-39

believe...

I believe that empowerment is a collective practice and a collective outcome; empowerment is not when one exceptional women gets financially successful but an oppressive system stays in place (that’s empowermyth!). Please note, however, that I’m 100% committed to building all of our livelihoods, because we deserve to thrive.

I am dreaming of a world where all bodies are cherished, so I enthusiastically support Black Lives Matter and the movement to dismantle white supremacy.

I know that gender is a social construct and I am in solidarity with my trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming siblings. That means I do not work with TERFs.

Fatphobia and Diet Culture are social justice issues, so I also do not work with people or companies promoting diet culture, weight loss and fat phobia.

I believe that we are all culture makers and that we can use our culture making power deliberately, to create new realities for ourselves and our world.

Here are a few of the ways I try to do that in my own LIFE AND BUSINESS

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Hiring + Money

  • I pay everyone — nanny, research assistant etc — a MINIMUM of a living wage or at least $30 an hour. (That’s the floor.)
  • If people are collaborating with me on a full-time basis to launch a program, I revenue-share with them
  • I believe in investing in our community which means I hire and contract from within our community, first, and prioritize the hiring of people with non-dominant identities
  • When I look for guidance or coaching in my own life I look to my clients and community first; I often hire my own former clients
  • I have a LOT of financial responsibilities — children, elders, extended family — so I need to earn a lot of money. I do this unapologetically

Accessibility

  • There are many low-cost options for working with me or learning from me, including live monthly workshops that are $100 each (You might also get a lot out of my free weekly Love Letter)
  • 20% of the spots in my programs are scholarship, trade or pay-what-you-can arrangements
  • For every four full-price 1:1 coaching clients, I take on one coaching client for free
  • When all of my needs are met, I coach for free. In January through April of 2019, for example, I had a organizational contract that met my financial needs, so I offered free mentoring sessions to anyone who wanted them
  • I tithe or redistribute 20% of my income to charities, causes or individuals
  • I sometimes run sales or special offers where I donate 50% or more of my gross revenue to an urgent cause
  • I offer payment plans; I believe payment plans are a form of financial accessibility AND they’re good for my own personal income stability (h/t Bear Hebert, Toi Smith)
  • Currently I don’t charge any extra fees or interest for accessing payment plans to work with me; before 2019 I charged between 8-10%, which was a number based on the actual costs for software, time and processing fees it took for me to administer payment plans

Solidarity, Self-Preservation,
and Culture-Making

  • I have pledged not to speak at events or on podcasts where the speakers are or have been disproportionately white and encouraged other leaders to do the same
  • I believe in signal-boosting and sharing the work of the people influencing me (Citation is a feminist practice; I’ve even footnoted a sales page!). There is so much brilliance in our community and it’s a joy to be part of it.
  • I strive to use apps and software that are made by companies founded by feminists and women and BIPOC (and, and, and)
  • I do not to use mental/social triggers in high-risk sales situations
  • I do not engage in money-shaming as a marketing tactic (or any kind of tactic!)
  • When I’m critiquing, I name patterns, not people, because
    1. This is about systemic change, not changing out individual "bad apples". I want to keep the focus on policies, practices, norms and institutions
    2. I’m not here to destroy anyone’s livelihood or build my brand by tearing other people down
    3. We are all in the water so we are all wet
  • For the most part, I don't comment on online controversies nor do I participate in "public humiliation spectacles"*. (Again: I keep my focus on patterns, not people.) I especially do not enter a live fray when I don't possess a highly specific, detailed understanding of the events (I'm looking for timelines and facts, not editorializing or rhetoric). I'm also not convinced that online call-outs are an effective tool of justice. A lot of the time, they end up being bad-faith trashings or "media misinformation campaigns"* that are punitive and coercive  rather than healing and transformative. Good-faith call-ins and call-outs, on the other hand,  are processes that most appropriately take place in real relationship and IRL community -- not as flame wars or digital take-downs. In other words: I'm not going to be co-opted or weaponized.
    • My thanks to Dr.Christine Marie for the language of "public humiliation spectacle" and "media misinformation/misrepresentation campaigns"
  • Please never  substitute my judgement for your own. We don't have to agree or even like each other to respect each other's work.
  •  I value critique and feedback and will take the time to process it, learn from it, and integrate it (thank you!!!)
  • I won’t tolerate attempts to erase me or my work nor will I accept intellectually dishonest or personally malicious “arguments”. I believe in my body of work and I will protect it, and myself. That’s part of being a culture-maker.
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Next Intake: November 2021

Every week, I send you a

Sunday Love Letter

I write them so that…

  1. You remember your culture-making power
  2. You have the inspiration + tools you need to grow a business that generates money AND justice

Let’s create a future in which we all flourish.

Are you in?

There's a reason I included WEEKLY live, guided meditations in We Are The Culture Makers 2022 and it's this: ⁠
⁠
In order to really know something, in our bones, it can't ONLY come from one direction. ⁠
⁠
We need to pick up the signals from many sources. We've got to receive the messages via our heads, our hearts, our bodies and our spirits.⁠
⁠
***⁠
We deserve to feel calm. We deserve to feel relief from anxiety and stress. ⁠
⁠
Even as we're growing our lives, growing our careers, changing our culture...our lives can't be a relentless grind. ⁠
⁠
There's got to be space and grace.⁠
⁠
🌸So that the knowledge of who you are -- A CULTURE MAKER -- seeps into your bones.⁠
⁠
🌸So that this knowingness forms a protective cloak that you carry with you everywhere.⁠
⁠
🌸And so that you're regularly relieving stress and calming your central nervous system. ⁠
⁠
This world can be hell on sensitive, thoughtful women and I want our daily experience in our own skins to change.⁠
⁠
***⁠
That's why I'm so delighted that yoga breathing & meditation teacher  Ntathu Allen leads these LIVE guided meditations for us each week.⁠
⁠
Because We Are The Culture Makers is NOT about work-work-work. ⁠
⁠
Gentleness and replenishment is part of the culture-making, power-building experience we're creating, together.⁠
⁠
love + justice⁠
⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
PS We Are The Culture Makers 2022 is low-cost online group coaching collective AND 100% PURE JET FUEL. Use it to power your life, your work, and your impact in the world. I invite you to learn more at the link in profile.⁠
⁠
PPS You can find Ntathu Allen at @yogainspiresyou
Wondering if you’re worthy, ⁠
over-giving ('tis the season)⁠
questioning if you belong at the table, ⁠
and feeling like you have to do everything yourself ⁠
⁠
are NOT your natural inclinations.⁠
⁠
They’re the voice of an unjust culture working through you without your consent.⁠
⁠
So is imposter complex.⁠
⁠
We doubt ourselves because we live in a woman-doubting culture. ⁠
⁠
And...no more.⁠
⁠
Let's change the channel.⁠
⁠
Let's unlearn this toxic social conditioning⁠
and reaffirm + revalidate ourselves...⁠
⁠
...so we can shrink our self-doubt and grow our power.⁠
⁠
Personally AND collectively.⁠
⁠
Because #WeAreTheCultureMakers⁠
⁠
:::::⁠
⁠
Please, in the midst of the pressure that can come with this time of year, take a moment to connect with someone who sees your power and sincerity. Let them tell you great things about yourself. Really hear it. ⁠
⁠
And, if you can, do it for someone else. Get on the phone and praise the sh*t out of them.⁠
⁠
We're often running on empty tanks and being seen and affirmed with sincere & true words of encouragement are pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Let's fly. ⁠
⁠
Or land the planes that have been in the air too long.⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
#feministmindset #leadwithsoul #feministcoaching #embodiedleadership #womeninthearena #breakingcycles #darkbeforethedawn
We Are The Culture Makers 2022 is...⁠
⁠
🔥One part low-cost, online, group coaching...⁠
⁠
🔥One part encouragement circle where we get to know each other and find opportunities to ask for and receive support...⁠
⁠
🔥One part feminist analysis....⁠
⁠
🔥One part tools, strategies + tips for navigating -- and changing -- our lives and world...⁠
⁠
🔥And 100% pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Use it to fuel your life, your career, your relationships and your impact.⁠
⁠
Are you in? I invite you to learn more using the link in profile. ⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
#feministtraining #feministcoaching⁠ #feministselfhelp ⁠
#resourcesforwomen #womencoachingwomen #coachingforsuccess #womeninthearena #confidencemindset⁠
#feministvalues #groundedcoaching #feministcoach #settingboundariesboundary #peoplepleasing #womensempowermentcoach #selfcoaching
I want you to win.⁠
⁠
That's it. That's the post. ⁠
⁠
 #WinAndHelpWin⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
photo by @daniellecohenphotography

There's a reason I included WEEKLY live, guided meditations in We Are The Culture Makers 2022 and it's this: ⁠
⁠
In order to really know something, in our bones, it can't ONLY come from one direction. ⁠
⁠
We need to pick up the signals from many sources. We've got to receive the messages via our heads, our hearts, our bodies and our spirits.⁠
⁠
***⁠
We deserve to feel calm. We deserve to feel relief from anxiety and stress. ⁠
⁠
Even as we're growing our lives, growing our careers, changing our culture...our lives can't be a relentless grind. ⁠
⁠
There's got to be space and grace.⁠
⁠
🌸So that the knowledge of who you are -- A CULTURE MAKER -- seeps into your bones.⁠
⁠
🌸So that this knowingness forms a protective cloak that you carry with you everywhere.⁠
⁠
🌸And so that you're regularly relieving stress and calming your central nervous system. ⁠
⁠
This world can be hell on sensitive, thoughtful women and I want our daily experience in our own skins to change.⁠
⁠
***⁠
That's why I'm so delighted that yoga breathing & meditation teacher  Ntathu Allen leads these LIVE guided meditations for us each week.⁠
⁠
Because We Are The Culture Makers is NOT about work-work-work. ⁠
⁠
Gentleness and replenishment is part of the culture-making, power-building experience we're creating, together.⁠
⁠
love + justice⁠
⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
PS We Are The Culture Makers 2022 is low-cost online group coaching collective AND 100% PURE JET FUEL. Use it to power your life, your work, and your impact in the world. I invite you to learn more at the link in profile.⁠
⁠
PPS You can find Ntathu Allen at @yogainspiresyou
Wondering if you’re worthy, ⁠
over-giving ('tis the season)⁠
questioning if you belong at the table, ⁠
and feeling like you have to do everything yourself ⁠
⁠
are NOT your natural inclinations.⁠
⁠
They’re the voice of an unjust culture working through you without your consent.⁠
⁠
So is imposter complex.⁠
⁠
We doubt ourselves because we live in a woman-doubting culture. ⁠
⁠
And...no more.⁠
⁠
Let's change the channel.⁠
⁠
Let's unlearn this toxic social conditioning⁠
and reaffirm + revalidate ourselves...⁠
⁠
...so we can shrink our self-doubt and grow our power.⁠
⁠
Personally AND collectively.⁠
⁠
Because #WeAreTheCultureMakers⁠
⁠
:::::⁠
⁠
Please, in the midst of the pressure that can come with this time of year, take a moment to connect with someone who sees your power and sincerity. Let them tell you great things about yourself. Really hear it. ⁠
⁠
And, if you can, do it for someone else. Get on the phone and praise the sh*t out of them.⁠
⁠
We're often running on empty tanks and being seen and affirmed with sincere & true words of encouragement are pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Let's fly. ⁠
⁠
Or land the planes that have been in the air too long.⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
#feministmindset #leadwithsoul #feministcoaching #embodiedleadership #womeninthearena #breakingcycles #darkbeforethedawn
We Are The Culture Makers 2022 is...⁠
⁠
🔥One part low-cost, online, group coaching...⁠
⁠
🔥One part encouragement circle where we get to know each other and find opportunities to ask for and receive support...⁠
⁠
🔥One part feminist analysis....⁠
⁠
🔥One part tools, strategies + tips for navigating -- and changing -- our lives and world...⁠
⁠
🔥And 100% pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Use it to fuel your life, your career, your relationships and your impact.⁠
⁠
Are you in? I invite you to learn more using the link in profile. ⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
#feministtraining #feministcoaching⁠ #feministselfhelp ⁠
#resourcesforwomen #womencoachingwomen #coachingforsuccess #womeninthearena #confidencemindset⁠
#feministvalues #groundedcoaching #feministcoach #settingboundariesboundary #peoplepleasing #womensempowermentcoach #selfcoaching