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What’s a Culture Maker? You don’t have to have a fancy title or an artsy career to be a culture-maker (but you can if you want to!). When you get brave and go first and...

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Every week, I send you a

Sunday Love Letter

I write them so that…

  1. You remember your culture-making power
  2. You have the inspiration + tools you need to grow a future in which we all flourish
Are you in?

the first live group call for We Are The Culture Makers TOMORROW...⁠⁠
⁠⁠
...so if you've been thinking you want to join, this is your loving reminder that today is the day :)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥⁠
⁠⁠
We Are The Culture Makers is self-help through a feminist lens, and it's a year of radical encouragement meant to help you⁠⁠
(1) unlearn the social conditioning keeping us in self-doubt ⁠⁠
(2) learn the power-building habits that can help you rise -- personally, and collectively ⁠
(3) Reshape your self-image and grow your self-confidence so you can MAKE POWER MOVES⁠
⁠⁠
In other words: this is about getting out of shame and into power.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
If that sounds like a fit for you, I invite you to sign up with the link in profile @kelly.diels -- and thank you!⁠⁠
⁠⁠
love + justice,⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Kelly⁠⁠
psssst...Wednesday is the last day to enrol in *We Are The Culture Makers 2023*.⁠
⁠
🔥It's one part low-cost, online, group coaching...⁠
⁠
🔥One part encouragement circle where we get to know each other and find opportunities to ask for and receive support...⁠
⁠
🔥One part feminist analysis....⁠
⁠
🔥One part tools, strategies + tips for navigating -- and changing -- our lives and world...⁠
⁠
🔥And 100% pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Use it to fuel your life, your career, your relationships and your impact.⁠
⁠
Are you in? You can learn more using the link in profile @kelly.diels . ⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
⁠ #feministclass #feministtraining #feministworkshop #feministcoaching⁠
I always feel a bit weird about these 'last-call' posts.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Please know this isn't 'fake scarcity' or fake pressure to get you to sign up (I wholeheartedly OPPOSE those tactics). ⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Instead, this is a real deadline: ⁠⁠
the first live group call for We Are The Culture Makers is next Thursday, Feb 2...⁠⁠
⁠⁠
...so if you've been thinking you want to join, this is your loving reminder that this is the week to do that :)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
***⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Here's what you get in We Are The Culture Maker:⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥6 group calls⁠ per month -- drop in at either 9am PST or 4pm PST (or both!) on Thursdays⁠⁠ in Weeks 1-3 each month⁠
⁠⁠
🔥 Learn my self-coaching tool, the TRUEX framework, for getting out of shame and into your power -- on the spot, wherever you are⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥3 video lessons each month (and sometimes more) on how to create new realities for yourself (and all of us!) around fraught issues like Power, Time, Money, Body, Likability, Care, Work, Leadership and more⁠⁠
⁠
🔥Weekly Co-Working Sessions⁠ you can drop into so you have time set aside in your schedule to work on projects that truly matter to you⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥Weekly, live Guided Meditation sessions to calm your central nervous system and bolster your spirit, taught by yoga breathing & meditation teacher Ntathu Allen⁠ (Find Ntathu at https://www.yogainspires.co.uk and @yogainspiresyou⁠)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥Online Mighty Networks group so you can get to know people in the group and make meaningful connections. This space is lovingly & fiercely facilitated by community-builder Trevia Woods⁠. (Find Trevia at https://www.manytreeslifeway.com and @trevia_woods⁠)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
All in all, it's a year of radical encouragement meant to help you⁠⁠
(1) unlearn the social conditioning keeping us in self-doubt ⁠⁠
(2) learn the power-building habits that can help you rise -- personally, and collectively.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
In other words: this is about getting out of shame and into power.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
If that sounds like a fit for you, I invite you to sign up with the link in profile @kelly.diels -- and thank you!⁠⁠
⁠⁠
love + justice,⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Kelly⁠⁠
Good morning. Happy New Year. I am rooting for you. Your dreams and desires and ambitions matter and they are NOT impossible.⁠
⁠
(The oracle Dolly Parton told us so.)⁠
⁠
Re: ambition and likeability.⁠
⁠
For YEARS I have been counselling culture-making women to break up with likability. It's such a critical self-development and culture-making skill that I dedicated an entire, month-long, 4-lesson module in one of my programs to grappling with likability and what a seductive, compelling, hard-to-avoid, BULLSHIT trap it is for women. ⁠
⁠
The pursuit of likability will eat your life and your dreams.⁠
⁠
And it is fruitless, anyways. ⁠
⁠
If you are in a body marked 'other' and actually grow any kind of personal power; if you cultivate your ambition and succeed in bringing a body of work into existence; if you occupy any space of influence or authority; if you have any kind of personal sovereignty and the resources or ability to protect yourself...⁠
⁠
...then the research shows* that you will pay a 'likability penalty'. In other words, people suddenly start perceiving you as less likeable and act accordingly. ⁠
⁠
So. All that swallowing the words we wanted to say, smiling brightly, tamping down our ambitions, playing small, making hostile systems function, and ensuring others feel comfortable when they don't care about our comfort...it was never going to work. It was never going get us where we wanted to go, personally or collectively. WHOLE. FLOURISHING.⁠
⁠
How about we...stop?⁠
⁠
How about we divest of the likeability performance and cultivate our desires, dreams, ambitions, pleasure and rest this year (and always!) instead?⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
#WeAreTheCultureMakers ⁠
#SelfHelpThroughAFeministLens⁠
⁠
* h/t @stefanieoconnell https://www.instagram.com/p/Cmt4ky1hijQ/

the first live group call for We Are The Culture Makers TOMORROW...⁠⁠
⁠⁠
...so if you've been thinking you want to join, this is your loving reminder that today is the day :)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥⁠
⁠⁠
We Are The Culture Makers is self-help through a feminist lens, and it's a year of radical encouragement meant to help you⁠⁠
(1) unlearn the social conditioning keeping us in self-doubt ⁠⁠
(2) learn the power-building habits that can help you rise -- personally, and collectively ⁠
(3) Reshape your self-image and grow your self-confidence so you can MAKE POWER MOVES⁠
⁠⁠
In other words: this is about getting out of shame and into power.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
If that sounds like a fit for you, I invite you to sign up with the link in profile @kelly.diels -- and thank you!⁠⁠
⁠⁠
love + justice,⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Kelly⁠⁠
psssst...Wednesday is the last day to enrol in *We Are The Culture Makers 2023*.⁠
⁠
🔥It's one part low-cost, online, group coaching...⁠
⁠
🔥One part encouragement circle where we get to know each other and find opportunities to ask for and receive support...⁠
⁠
🔥One part feminist analysis....⁠
⁠
🔥One part tools, strategies + tips for navigating -- and changing -- our lives and world...⁠
⁠
🔥And 100% pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Use it to fuel your life, your career, your relationships and your impact.⁠
⁠
Are you in? You can learn more using the link in profile @kelly.diels . ⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
⁠ #feministclass #feministtraining #feministworkshop #feministcoaching⁠
I always feel a bit weird about these 'last-call' posts.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Please know this isn't 'fake scarcity' or fake pressure to get you to sign up (I wholeheartedly OPPOSE those tactics). ⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Instead, this is a real deadline: ⁠⁠
the first live group call for We Are The Culture Makers is next Thursday, Feb 2...⁠⁠
⁠⁠
...so if you've been thinking you want to join, this is your loving reminder that this is the week to do that :)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
***⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Here's what you get in We Are The Culture Maker:⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥6 group calls⁠ per month -- drop in at either 9am PST or 4pm PST (or both!) on Thursdays⁠⁠ in Weeks 1-3 each month⁠
⁠⁠
🔥 Learn my self-coaching tool, the TRUEX framework, for getting out of shame and into your power -- on the spot, wherever you are⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥3 video lessons each month (and sometimes more) on how to create new realities for yourself (and all of us!) around fraught issues like Power, Time, Money, Body, Likability, Care, Work, Leadership and more⁠⁠
⁠
🔥Weekly Co-Working Sessions⁠ you can drop into so you have time set aside in your schedule to work on projects that truly matter to you⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥Weekly, live Guided Meditation sessions to calm your central nervous system and bolster your spirit, taught by yoga breathing & meditation teacher Ntathu Allen⁠ (Find Ntathu at https://www.yogainspires.co.uk and @yogainspiresyou⁠)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥Online Mighty Networks group so you can get to know people in the group and make meaningful connections. This space is lovingly & fiercely facilitated by community-builder Trevia Woods⁠. (Find Trevia at https://www.manytreeslifeway.com and @trevia_woods⁠)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
All in all, it's a year of radical encouragement meant to help you⁠⁠
(1) unlearn the social conditioning keeping us in self-doubt ⁠⁠
(2) learn the power-building habits that can help you rise -- personally, and collectively.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
In other words: this is about getting out of shame and into power.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
If that sounds like a fit for you, I invite you to sign up with the link in profile @kelly.diels -- and thank you!⁠⁠
⁠⁠
love + justice,⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Kelly⁠⁠