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The Fantasy of Being Holiday Fabulous

By Kelly Diels / December 20, 2018 /

The Fantasy of Being Holiday Fabulous gets in the way of actually having fabulous holidays. So let’s retire it. [H/t Kate Harding’s LIFE ALTERING 2009 essay, The Fantasy of Being Thin]

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TRUTH: “You Can’t Be Friends With Someone Who Wants Your Life”

By Kelly Diels / June 27, 2018 / Comments Off on TRUTH: “You Can’t Be Friends With Someone Who Wants Your Life”

I know that when I’ve wanted someone else’s life, it made me transactional, strategic, subservient, and sometimes envious. In other words: not a safe friendship or business bet.

And I know that when friends, lovers or colleagues wanted what I had, we always ended in conflict and destruction. Always.

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We Are Each Other’s Necessary Tendernesses

By Kelly Diels / June 20, 2018 / Comments Off on We Are Each Other’s Necessary Tendernesses

The best thing we ever do is lean on each other and lift each other up because we are the culture makers, and together we rise.

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What Looks Like Personal Choices are Often Framed Up for Us By Society

By Kelly Diels / June 19, 2018 / Comments Off on What Looks Like Personal Choices are Often Framed Up for Us By Society

The way we use our time is predetermined and overdetermined by our society and gender roles, and society frames our productivity as “personal choices.”

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We are Not Worker Bees. We are Humans…and CREATORS.

By Kelly Diels / June 15, 2018 / Comments Off on We are Not Worker Bees. We are Humans…and CREATORS.

“In fact, many full-time artist reports that they have become more creatively rounded into full-time people.” – Julia Cameron. I struggle with this exactly!

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Talking with My Hands and Trying to Be Good with Emelia

By Kelly Diels / May 3, 2018 / Comments Off on Talking with My Hands and Trying to Be Good with Emelia

This photo makes me smile. Admittedly, talking with my hands is perhaps not the most effective way to communicate on the radio.

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Sorry! The Lifestyle You Ordered is Currently Out of Stock

By Kelly Diels / April 27, 2018 / Comments Off on Sorry! The Lifestyle You Ordered is Currently Out of Stock

Graffiti awesomeness by Banksy. Looks like we are all circling around the same phenomenon, trying to figure it out…and maybe change it.

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“Prettiness is Not a Rent You Pay…” by Erin McKean

By Kelly Diels / April 26, 2018 / Comments Off on “Prettiness is Not a Rent You Pay…” by Erin McKean

“Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked female” – Erin McKean. A note on checking our sources, and citations as culture making moves.

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Determining The Colour of Our Blooms

By Kelly Diels / March 17, 2018 / Comments Off on Determining The Colour of Our Blooms

A lot of what comes out of our mouths — and even what we think — is predetermined by our conditioning, our culture. We can, and must, interrupt this.

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Look for the cracks in the system and go ahead and bloom

By Kelly Diels / March 14, 2018 / Comments Off on Look for the cracks in the system and go ahead and bloom

It’s not just you. It’s really not. Knowing how our culture frames our personal struggles is overwhelming or disheartening, it’s actually a source of power.

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