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As Lianne Raymond says

These are my teachers, “known and unknown” (meaning they don’t necessarily know me nor would they necessarily agree with everything I say or do — and vice versa — but at critical points in my career, their work has fed me and become part of my flesh):

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Here are some of people + books who have

grown me:

Dr. Barbara Bryant Solomon:

Whose social and academic work on black empowerment appears to be  one of the first articulations of “empowerment”; her textbook has been my touchstone.

Mr. Beech:

Who was the first teacher in my life to show me the gap between our democratic goals as a country and the harsh, oppressive realities (I did not take it kindly and I’m still mortified at my 14 year old self).

Lianne Raymond:

For being a wise woman who knows things and has always sent resources my way and greeted me with compassion even when she doesn’t agree with my thinking or work.

Danielle LaPorte:

For seeing something in me nine years ago and championing me privately and publicly on before anyone knew of me or my work; and for materially helping me get started, online. I still get business because of her early support — and the significance of one woman using her influence and sharing her knowledge to help another woman develop a sovereign, sustainable livelihood can never be underestimated.

Dr. Lindo Bacon:

For their life-altering books, Health at Every Size and Body Respect (co-authored with Lucy Aphramor) and unending personal + professional generosity. HAES helped me stop hating myself and for this I am truly grateful.

Dr. Barbara Arniel:

For hiring me to be her research assistant while I was still an undergrad (!!) and mentoring me even before I realized that mentoring was a thing.

Toi Smith:

For her expert Online Business Management, her influence on the direction of my career, her unwavering friendship, and her capacity to be direct and say what needs to be said. That’s love and culture-making in action.

Gwynn Raimondi:

For opening me to the possibility of embodiment and helping me regulate my central nervous system on the daily and ESPECIALLY in times of trial (2017 was an unrelenting, 12 month inferno).

Jennifer McClanahan-Flint:

For coaching me into new culture making possibilities, for underlining the value in my analysis and the book I’m working on, forcing me to look at how many hours I *really* have available to work so that I finally saw the necessity of shifting my business model and raising my rates. What I learned with her emboldened me immeasurably in my culture making AND tripled my business income in a year.

Anna North:

For publishing me at Jezebel and Salon and being a possibility model in the professional world of words.

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Vicki Saunders, CV Harquail, Meghna Majmudar, Tanya Geisler, Pam Singh, Astarte Sands, Justine Musk, Dr. Danusia Malina-DerbenUna de Boer

For being points-of-inspiration, friends, or mentors along the way– in person and from afar.

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Thinkers, writers, speakers — culture makers! — whose ideas have formed me:

Chantal Mouffe, Rene Girard, Audre Lorde, bell hooks, Gloria Steinem, Ta-Nehisi Coates, Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Nancy Fraser, Carol Pateman, Maya Angelou, Rebecca Solnit, Kate Harding, Marianne Kirby,  Roxane Gay, Dr. Kimberle Crenshaw, Tema Okun and Kenneth Jones, Benjamin R. Teitelbaum, adrienne maree brown, Sarah Schulman, Lindy West, Sonya Renee Taylor, Naomi Wolf, Susan Faludi, Jia Tolentino, Cedar Barstow.

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Can magazines be formative influences?

Because they have been:

Ms. Magazine and the early iteration of Sassy. But especially Ms. Magazine, my friend and feminist mentor since I was eleven years old.

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prah

As a possibility model. I often say I was co-parented by Oprah and I’m only half-joking. I feel like I grew up with her show and it shaped me. Of course, like most of the “unknown teachers” on this list, she has no idea I exist. Yet.

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S. Lawrence, S. Kelly, A. Young, J. Neufeld and F. Rostant:

For their love across the years. 

Dr. David Doolin:

For his friendship at a pivotal moment in my life, for helping me learn copywriting and trying to teach me about SEO. I say tried because I basically refused. Despite myself, I did absorb some critically useful stuff. I’m grateful.

Every week, I send you a

Sunday Love Letter

I write them so that…

  1. You remember your culture-making power
  2. You have the inspiration + tools you need to grow a future in which we all flourish
Are you in?

When things need changing -- urgently --⁠
and they are outside our individual areas of influence or expertise, ⁠
that doesn’t mean we’re helpless or useless.⁠
⁠
It means we get to work undergirding the work ⁠
of people & organizations ⁠
who ARE serving in exactly this space.⁠
⁠
Outrage, overwhelm, despair, desperation: they are all righteous information. ⁠
⁠
Feeling them, ⁠
and using them as a compass, ⁠
gives us an action item to complete: Who is already on the ground doing work that you can support?⁠
⁠
----⁠
I outlined a 3-step model we can use to create positive change ⁠
even AND ESPECIALLY in overwhelming, troubling times.⁠
⁠
If that could be helpful to you right now, it's here:⁠
https://www.kellydiels.com/what-to-do-in-overwhelmingly-troubled-times/⁠
⁠
I trust you with power and resources.⁠
⁠
*I literally cannot say this enough.*⁠
⁠
Many fat women and women of colour and queer women and disabled folks and trans and non-binary folks (and, and, and) have experienced power being used abusively against us...⁠
⁠
...which often means that some of us are going to be wildly uncomfortable with power-building -- in all forms.⁠
⁠
Many of us believe, on a cellular level, that money + power = abuse. Because that's what we've lived.⁠
⁠
Which raises a critical question for our lives: what will we think about ***ourselves*** if we earn money and power?⁠
⁠
***⁠
If you recoil from holding power or money even as you need them and explicitly seek them, please know that there is nothing wrong with you. This tension actually a sign that your sense of justice is finely honed.⁠
⁠
It means you don't want to become that which you oppose.⁠
⁠
This, obviously, is a very good thing. Let's be relieved that our moral compasses are working.⁠
⁠
And let's break the spell*. ⁠
(h/t @amandaklaird for this *language)⁠
⁠
***⁠
Here's how we break cultural spells and intervene in unconscious sequences and patterns:⁠
⁠
We surface them. Expose them. Make them conscious.⁠
⁠
To break the money-power-abuse spell, let's explicitly, consciously ask ourselves if what we have been conditioned believe about ourselves and power and money is true:⁠
⁠
Is it true that if you have power, you will abuse it?⁠
Is it true that if you have money and power, you will use it to exploit people?⁠
Is it true that the only way to get money is to harm people?⁠
⁠
***⁠
⁠
When I inquired into my own beliefs about power and explicit asked myself, do I want to use money and power the way it's been used against me (To hurt people? To dominate? To hoard?)...⁠
⁠
...the answer is NOOOOOOOOOO.⁠
⁠
And so the spell is broken.⁠
⁠
***⁠
⁠
I trust you with power, money and resources.⁠
⁠
Let's get them, grow them, and use them to flourish -- personally and collectively.⁠
⁠
Because we are the culture makers.⁠ ⁠
⁠
***⁠
kellydiels.com ⁠
Business and Self Development for Culture Makers ⁠
⁠
#wearetheculturemakers #powerbuilding #feministlife #earnedpower⁠
At the best of times - and always - there is a cultural expectation that women care. That women care-give. That women will lean in and help out and emotionally support and take care of everyone and everything.

On the one hand, that's WONDERFUL. 

Care is the glue that holds our societies, workplaces, families & relationships together. 

It is precious & ESSENTIAL and we should all be doing it (not just women). 

Care and caregiving is one of the most valuable skills anyone can possess and the most valuable social contributions anyone can make.

And yet...as a society, we devalue it. We erase it from view. 

We download it disproportionately onto the shoulders of women. 
We make it a non-negotiable feature of being a woman. 

“Woman = uncompensated caregiver" and that women OWE their emotional labour and caregiving to the world is a foundational belief in our culture.

That belief is present all the time. It's especially intense during social crisis when the needs of others are multiplied.

That's why we often see pushback on social media (and in our inboxes, ask me how I know) against women entrepreneurs and freelancers who have the AUDACITY to promote their work or charge for their services *when people need them most*.

How dare women ask for compensation -- especially with the multiple social crises we're experiencing -- when our collective subconscious beliefs about women dictate that they should be *volunteering* their care, time & services?! 

When you see that kind of pushback or outrage, that's the unconscious, FOUNDATIONAL belief motivating it.

No one population or gender is responsible for all the care our world requires. 

I value care and caregiving and will continue to share my love and protection and service. 

As I do that, I will continue to run my business, market, and get paid. 

Because... 
1) As we offer care, women also require financial inputs in order to SURVIVE. (We don't eat air.) 

2) The needs of our time are not just on me to meet nor exclusively on women to meet. This is a collective responsibility.

Care IS essential but "woman" is not a synonym for "caregiver" or "uncompensated labourer". 

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Image by @broobs.psd

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We can do it our way, I promise.⁠
⁠
We don't have to market our businesses using pain and shame.⁠
⁠
We can create marketing materials that bear loving witness to the actual problem...⁠
⁠
...AND IT'S NOT THE CLIENT. ⁠
⁠
It's the circumstances and system they're navigating.⁠
⁠
Our job, as a *principled* entrepreneurs who care about our cultural impact, is to bear loving witness to that challenge. ⁠
⁠
Talk about it -- a lot. ⁠
⁠
Create relief around it, instead of shame. Make sure your folks know that it's not their fault, there's nothing wrong with them, but YES THERE IS something they can do to change it.⁠
⁠
Let  your audience and clients know that you have a framework or process that can help them do just that.⁠
⁠
Then make the ask. Invite them to work with you. ⁠
⁠
The result? Instead of being subconsciously triggered into a buying decision, they can make an explicit, conscious, POWERFUL decisions to work with you.⁠
⁠
This deliberate decision can be the first step in the work they're committing to.⁠
⁠
Which means that our sales funnels and copy can be the first step in the transformational work we do with clients...⁠
⁠
...rather than in opposition to it. ⁠
⁠
#Aligned #WeAreTheCultureMakers⁠
⁠
*****⁠
I'm Kelly Diels. I'm a writer & business development coach for culture makers.⁠
⁠
I work with people who want to sell using using VISION and VALUES rather than shame and pain -- and I've developed specific marketing models and frameworks you can use to build EFFECTIVE brand copy that sells...⁠
⁠
...without sacrificing your principles or your conscience.⁠
⁠
I invite you to learn more using the link in profile @kelly.diels⁠ -- and thank you!⁠
⁠
 #onlinecopywriting #nameyourvision #womenentrepreneurs #itsnotbusinessasusual #copywriting #contentmarketing⁠ #CopywritingTip⁠ ⁠#ConfidentCopywriting⁠ #copywriter⁠ #CopywritingCoach⁠ ⁠#feministcopywriting #BrandCopy⁠  #CopywritingForCreatives⁠ #CopywritersOfInstagram⁠ #OnlineMarketing⁠ #OnlineMarketingTips⁠  #consciouscopywriting  #CopywritingSkills⁠ #creativebusiness #antiracistbusiness #consciousbusiness⁠ #kdvision⁠
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photo by @daniellecohenphotography⁠

When things need changing -- urgently --⁠
and they are outside our individual areas of influence or expertise, ⁠
that doesn’t mean we’re helpless or useless.⁠
⁠
It means we get to work undergirding the work ⁠
of people & organizations ⁠
who ARE serving in exactly this space.⁠
⁠
Outrage, overwhelm, despair, desperation: they are all righteous information. ⁠
⁠
Feeling them, ⁠
and using them as a compass, ⁠
gives us an action item to complete: Who is already on the ground doing work that you can support?⁠
⁠
----⁠
I outlined a 3-step model we can use to create positive change ⁠
even AND ESPECIALLY in overwhelming, troubling times.⁠
⁠
If that could be helpful to you right now, it's here:⁠
https://www.kellydiels.com/what-to-do-in-overwhelmingly-troubled-times/⁠
⁠
I trust you with power and resources.⁠
⁠
*I literally cannot say this enough.*⁠
⁠
Many fat women and women of colour and queer women and disabled folks and trans and non-binary folks (and, and, and) have experienced power being used abusively against us...⁠
⁠
...which often means that some of us are going to be wildly uncomfortable with power-building -- in all forms.⁠
⁠
Many of us believe, on a cellular level, that money + power = abuse. Because that's what we've lived.⁠
⁠
Which raises a critical question for our lives: what will we think about ***ourselves*** if we earn money and power?⁠
⁠
***⁠
If you recoil from holding power or money even as you need them and explicitly seek them, please know that there is nothing wrong with you. This tension actually a sign that your sense of justice is finely honed.⁠
⁠
It means you don't want to become that which you oppose.⁠
⁠
This, obviously, is a very good thing. Let's be relieved that our moral compasses are working.⁠
⁠
And let's break the spell*. ⁠
(h/t @amandaklaird for this *language)⁠
⁠
***⁠
Here's how we break cultural spells and intervene in unconscious sequences and patterns:⁠
⁠
We surface them. Expose them. Make them conscious.⁠
⁠
To break the money-power-abuse spell, let's explicitly, consciously ask ourselves if what we have been conditioned believe about ourselves and power and money is true:⁠
⁠
Is it true that if you have power, you will abuse it?⁠
Is it true that if you have money and power, you will use it to exploit people?⁠
Is it true that the only way to get money is to harm people?⁠
⁠
***⁠
⁠
When I inquired into my own beliefs about power and explicit asked myself, do I want to use money and power the way it's been used against me (To hurt people? To dominate? To hoard?)...⁠
⁠
...the answer is NOOOOOOOOOO.⁠
⁠
And so the spell is broken.⁠
⁠
***⁠
⁠
I trust you with power, money and resources.⁠
⁠
Let's get them, grow them, and use them to flourish -- personally and collectively.⁠
⁠
Because we are the culture makers.⁠ ⁠
⁠
***⁠
kellydiels.com ⁠
Business and Self Development for Culture Makers ⁠
⁠
#wearetheculturemakers #powerbuilding #feministlife #earnedpower⁠
At the best of times - and always - there is a cultural expectation that women care. That women care-give. That women will lean in and help out and emotionally support and take care of everyone and everything.

On the one hand, that's WONDERFUL. 

Care is the glue that holds our societies, workplaces, families & relationships together. 

It is precious & ESSENTIAL and we should all be doing it (not just women). 

Care and caregiving is one of the most valuable skills anyone can possess and the most valuable social contributions anyone can make.

And yet...as a society, we devalue it. We erase it from view. 

We download it disproportionately onto the shoulders of women. 
We make it a non-negotiable feature of being a woman. 

“Woman = uncompensated caregiver" and that women OWE their emotional labour and caregiving to the world is a foundational belief in our culture.

That belief is present all the time. It's especially intense during social crisis when the needs of others are multiplied.

That's why we often see pushback on social media (and in our inboxes, ask me how I know) against women entrepreneurs and freelancers who have the AUDACITY to promote their work or charge for their services *when people need them most*.

How dare women ask for compensation -- especially with the multiple social crises we're experiencing -- when our collective subconscious beliefs about women dictate that they should be *volunteering* their care, time & services?! 

When you see that kind of pushback or outrage, that's the unconscious, FOUNDATIONAL belief motivating it.

No one population or gender is responsible for all the care our world requires. 

I value care and caregiving and will continue to share my love and protection and service. 

As I do that, I will continue to run my business, market, and get paid. 

Because... 
1) As we offer care, women also require financial inputs in order to SURVIVE. (We don't eat air.) 

2) The needs of our time are not just on me to meet nor exclusively on women to meet. This is a collective responsibility.

Care IS essential but "woman" is not a synonym for "caregiver" or "uncompensated labourer". 

🌺
Image by @broobs.psd

kellydiels.com