KELLY COLLAGE_Female Empowerment Brand

The Female Lifestyle

Empowerment Brand

(It's not a good thing.)

This page includes my definition of The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand + all my essays and blog posts explaining why it’s bad for women, our businesses and our culture.

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Definition:

A "perfect woman" archetype must comply with and embody in order to be deserving of rights and resources

AND

A marketing strategy that leverages social status and white privilege to create authority over other women.

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In Our Culture

Every Woman Is a Brand

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The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand. An introduction.

Somewhere, on the edge of consciousness, there is what I call a mythical norm, which each one of us within our hearts knows “that is not me.” In America, this norm is usually defined as white, thin, male, young, heterosexual, Christian, and financially secure. -...

Featured posts

Ixtapa, Mexico + John Rawls + No Pedi. Unthinkable now, right?

#tbt Toes in the Sand but NO PEDI. Also, The Beauty Myth then and now.

cartoon of 1950s man in suit with his feet propped up on table saying "it's not my problem" about the so-called "feminist pendulum"

Feminism, Femininity and The Swinging Pendulum. A Question for You.

The Context for The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brrand

Not Enough Compensation in the World

May 30 2016

Liking Someone Can Be Terrible Information

There was a guy I went to high school with. He wasn't popular per se but he was kind of badass in high school. Smart ...

May 21 2016

on the abuse of reciprocity and women

Reciprocity seems so lovely. You share, I share. You offer, I reciprocate. Fairness for all! Reciprocity is fundamentally about justice. I'm talking about it like ...

May 18 2016

On the ‘Mental Triggers’ of Online Marketing, The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand, Assessing Who Deserves Your Money, and Why We Should Be Skeptical of Makeover Stories

Jeff Walker's launch formula - taught in his best-selling book, Launch and his course, Product Launch Formula - has had a profound impact on online marketing. ...
On love, fight, grief and masculinity

May 3 2016

on love, fight, grief and masculinity

I was going to write a massive missive on femininity today, because I'm worried that The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand is not just a marketing ...

April 14 2016

Not Every Man is a Patriarch. Not Every Patriarch is a Man.

I talk a lot about how personal beauty is used as a marketing tool by The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand. Everyone's gonna think I have ...
women are not a problem

April 13 2016

Women Are Not a Problem to Be Fixed

Our culture's base assumption about women is that we are a problem. At school, our bodies are a distraction and keep boys and men from ...

The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand: We Can Do Better

What is The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand and 'empowermyth'? It’s go-go entrepreneur-ism without the caveat that most women entrepreneurs start micro-businesses which generate subsistence-level revenues rather than untrammeled abundance. It’s yoga ...

March 25 2016

#tbt Toes in the Sand but NO PEDI. Also, The Beauty Myth then and now.

Ixtapa, Mexico + John Rawls + No Pedi. Unthinkable now, right? It was the 90s - before Instagram, before I even had a cell phone. ...

March 23 2016

Why I’m Writing About The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand

I. This sketch is part of my series on The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand. (It starts here.) The reason I'm researching and writing these essays ...

Five Egregious Internet Marketing No-Nos

Overall: consciously refuse to perpetuate or replicate in your marketing and sales funnels the authoritarian, predatory, oppressive and abusive dynamics you want to disrupt in ...

Every week, I send you a

Sunday Love Letter

I write them so that…

  1. You remember your culture-making power
  2. You have the inspiration + tools you need to grow a business that generates money AND justice

Let’s create a future in which we all flourish.

Are you in?

psssst don't tell anyone but your Sunday Love Letter is sent!⁠
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(Just kidding, please tell all your friends)⁠
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Today it is about systems.⁠
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We're trying to get free of systems that harm us...⁠
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...which means we often recoil from building our own systems, in our lives and careers and businesses.⁠
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But systems and structures can be liberatory -- personally, and collectively.⁠
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They can reduce chaos and harm. They can  produce ease and pleasure. They can be life-giving.⁠
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And indeed, if our goal is to dismantle systems of oppression, we're going to need to replace those structures with something else.⁠
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Like, ones that facilitate FLOURISHING.⁠
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All that to say...today's email is about reclaiming power, money, community and SYSTEMS AND STRUCTURES.⁠
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Let's grow them on OUR terms. #WeAreTheCultureMakers #SundayLoveLetter⁠
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🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺⁠
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I'm Kelly Diels and I'm a #FeministBusiness educator. ⁠
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One of the first things I do with clients is help them figure out their business model aka HOW THEY MAKE MONEY ( their pricing, their offer, their accessibility strategies, their time)...⁠
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...and I do it through the lens of justice. #moneyandjustice⁠
**Culture making = tiny acts of doing-it-differently**

Every day, whether we are conscious of it or not, we are making and remaking our culture.

Each of us makes a million tiny agreements at any given moment to go along with our culture and make things run smoothly.

A lot of the times, people disagree with the demands and dictates and practices of our culture, but swallow their voice and say nothing.

And even in that moment, in the internal dissonance and the absence of action, they are culture makers.

In that moment, they (we!) allow the over-culture to continue as it is, unimpeded.

We let the voice of culture speak through our mouths and use our bodies and lives in order to stabilize and regenerate itself.

And that reveals a huge opportunity: we can choose how to deliberately use our culture-making power.

Instead of letting an unjust culture flow through us, we can interrupt it — and we can make a new one.

And we do it with tiny, consistent, committed words + actions + experiments + contributions each day.

**Tiny acts of doing-it-differently are culture making.**

Tiny acts of doing-it-differently dislodge the web of cooperation that the unjust culture requires in order to continue functioning — and creates something new, instead.

For the future, and for right now.

Culture isn’t ‘out there’ or something that’s set in stone and unchanging.

Culture is living and organic; it’s in us; it acts on us; it moves through us…and we co-create it, every day.

And so we, the culture makers, have the power to disrupt it, reimagine it, and make a new one in which everyone flourishes.

Let's do that in a  million tiny ways, every day.

Our  tiny acts of doing-it-differently, every day, add up to a whole new world.

#WeAreTheCultureMakers

🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

I'm Kelly Diels and I'm a #FeministBusiness coach and a culture maker. I help feminist entrepreneurs build the language & institutions of the future.

#changemaking #womensempowerment #empowerment #socialimpact  #feministcoach #mindset⁠ #feministaf #feminism #socialjustice #feministfounders #entrepreneurialfeminist #bossbabe #buildingtheinstitutionsofthefuture #consciousbusiness #girlboss #goaldigger
Today I'm teaching my Money + Justice Workshop at 10 am - free!⁠
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It's for everyone who's playing what I call 'the double game' -- striving to create a flourishing livelihood in the existing paradigm while also creating a whole new paradigm.⁠
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If you've got mixed feelings about money, you're not alone -- and this workshop is designed to help.⁠
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Former attendees often tell me this class dissolves unnecessary shame on contact :)⁠
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Because the truth is, we're not bad with money. Our culture has been deliberately bad at distributing money to us.⁠
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And...no more.⁠
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Let's interrupt that pattern and create a whole new reality for ourselves and our communities.⁠
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If you can't make it live, there WILL be a recording...but you have to be signed up to get it.⁠
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 (There's an automation that helps me not have to send a gazillion things by hand.)⁠
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Link in bio @kelly.diels to sign up.⁠
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See you in a few hours!⁠
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love + justice (and money!)⁠
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Kelly

psssst don't tell anyone but your Sunday Love Letter is sent!⁠
⁠
(Just kidding, please tell all your friends)⁠
⁠
Today it is about systems.⁠
⁠
We're trying to get free of systems that harm us...⁠
⁠
...which means we often recoil from building our own systems, in our lives and careers and businesses.⁠
⁠
But systems and structures can be liberatory -- personally, and collectively.⁠
⁠
They can reduce chaos and harm. They can  produce ease and pleasure. They can be life-giving.⁠
⁠
And indeed, if our goal is to dismantle systems of oppression, we're going to need to replace those structures with something else.⁠
⁠
Like, ones that facilitate FLOURISHING.⁠
⁠
All that to say...today's email is about reclaiming power, money, community and SYSTEMS AND STRUCTURES.⁠
⁠
Let's grow them on OUR terms. #WeAreTheCultureMakers #SundayLoveLetter⁠
⁠
⁠
🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺⁠
⁠
I'm Kelly Diels and I'm a #FeministBusiness educator. ⁠
⁠
One of the first things I do with clients is help them figure out their business model aka HOW THEY MAKE MONEY ( their pricing, their offer, their accessibility strategies, their time)...⁠
⁠
...and I do it through the lens of justice. #moneyandjustice⁠
**Culture making = tiny acts of doing-it-differently**

Every day, whether we are conscious of it or not, we are making and remaking our culture.

Each of us makes a million tiny agreements at any given moment to go along with our culture and make things run smoothly.

A lot of the times, people disagree with the demands and dictates and practices of our culture, but swallow their voice and say nothing.

And even in that moment, in the internal dissonance and the absence of action, they are culture makers.

In that moment, they (we!) allow the over-culture to continue as it is, unimpeded.

We let the voice of culture speak through our mouths and use our bodies and lives in order to stabilize and regenerate itself.

And that reveals a huge opportunity: we can choose how to deliberately use our culture-making power.

Instead of letting an unjust culture flow through us, we can interrupt it — and we can make a new one.

And we do it with tiny, consistent, committed words + actions + experiments + contributions each day.

**Tiny acts of doing-it-differently are culture making.**

Tiny acts of doing-it-differently dislodge the web of cooperation that the unjust culture requires in order to continue functioning — and creates something new, instead.

For the future, and for right now.

Culture isn’t ‘out there’ or something that’s set in stone and unchanging.

Culture is living and organic; it’s in us; it acts on us; it moves through us…and we co-create it, every day.

And so we, the culture makers, have the power to disrupt it, reimagine it, and make a new one in which everyone flourishes.

Let's do that in a  million tiny ways, every day.

Our  tiny acts of doing-it-differently, every day, add up to a whole new world.

#WeAreTheCultureMakers

🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

I'm Kelly Diels and I'm a #FeministBusiness coach and a culture maker. I help feminist entrepreneurs build the language & institutions of the future.

#changemaking #womensempowerment #empowerment #socialimpact  #feministcoach #mindset⁠ #feministaf #feminism #socialjustice #feministfounders #entrepreneurialfeminist #bossbabe #buildingtheinstitutionsofthefuture #consciousbusiness #girlboss #goaldigger