Self Worth

What if Shame is Actually Good Information…That You Can Use to Get Free?

By Kelly Diels / July 21, 2019 /

We feel shame if there is a social expectation that we feel we’re not meeting, and that’s why I think shame is a wildly helpful at understanding oppression.

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The Fantasy of Being Holiday Fabulous

By Kelly Diels / December 20, 2018 /

The Fantasy of Being Holiday Fabulous gets in the way of actually having fabulous holidays. So let’s retire it. [H/t Kate Harding’s LIFE ALTERING 2009 essay, The Fantasy of Being Thin]

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on brand and women

In Our Culture, Every Woman Is a Brand

By Kelly Diels / October 18, 2018 /

In order to get access to rights and resources, every woman in our culture has to present herself as saleable, consumable object: we must brand ourselves.

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TRUTH: “You Can’t Be Friends With Someone Who Wants Your Life”

By Kelly Diels / June 27, 2018 / Comments Off on TRUTH: “You Can’t Be Friends With Someone Who Wants Your Life”

I know that when I’ve wanted someone else’s life, it made me transactional, strategic, subservient, and sometimes envious. In other words: not a safe friendship or business bet.

And I know that when friends, lovers or colleagues wanted what I had, we always ended in conflict and destruction. Always.

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We Are Each Other’s Necessary Tendernesses

By Kelly Diels / June 20, 2018 / Comments Off on We Are Each Other’s Necessary Tendernesses

The best thing we ever do is lean on each other and lift each other up because we are the culture makers, and together we rise.

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What Looks Like Personal Choices are Often Framed Up for Us By Society

By Kelly Diels / June 19, 2018 / Comments Off on What Looks Like Personal Choices are Often Framed Up for Us By Society

The way we use our time is predetermined and overdetermined by our society and gender roles, and society frames our productivity as “personal choices.”

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Dear Multi-Passionate Maker

By Kelly Diels / April 28, 2018 / Comments Off on Dear Multi-Passionate Maker

Entrepreneur spaces will often tell people with multiple passions and focuses that we are flaky, but I think we are cultivating a rich body of work.

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“Prettiness is Not a Rent You Pay…” by Erin McKean

By Kelly Diels / April 26, 2018 / Comments Off on “Prettiness is Not a Rent You Pay…” by Erin McKean

“Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked female” – Erin McKean. A note on checking our sources, and citations as culture making moves.

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Is the Voice Of Culture is Working Through You Without Your Consent?

By Kelly Diels / February 23, 2018 / Comments Off on Is the Voice Of Culture is Working Through You Without Your Consent?

As soon as I get that “oh my god, I recognize myself in this” feeling, I get to work unlearning that previously-invisible, culturally conditioned habit.

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We Are The Culture Makers

By Kelly Diels / February 9, 2018 / Comments Off on We Are The Culture Makers

What’s a Culture Maker? You don’t have to have a fancy title or an artsy career to be a culture-maker. You have that power. We all do.

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