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Every week, I send you a

Sunday Love Letter

I write them so that…

  1. You remember your culture-making power
  2. You have the inspiration + tools you need to grow a business that generates money AND justice

Let’s create a future in which we all flourish.

Are you in?

Sometimes, the greatest culture making we do is never 'out there' for the whole world to see.⁠
⁠
Last January, a person I almost married reached out after more than 13 years of radio silence (he literally ghosted on our engagement) to apologize for his f*ckboi ways. He'd been doing personal spiritual work to decolonize his soul, and he felt called to make amends. I think he also had the intention of releasing me from any thoughts that what happened was my fault.⁠
⁠
This January, something similar happened with someone I've been estranged from for 5 years. The amount of bravery it took to reach out to me was COLLOSSAL. I don't know the backstory but I'm willing to bet this act of courage was the result of massive inner healing.⁠
⁠
The wild thing about both of these reach-outs was that each followed on the heels of specific coaching or therapy I'd been doing to free myself of needing them to do something in order for me...to be me.⁠
⁠
(Also...there's something about January that is NOT awful, if we're doing things like this with each other.)⁠
⁠
I've been doing that work myself. I've been confronting my own demons and looking in the mirror, and sometimes had to grieve what I saw there. I've been grappling with all the ways *I* was the villain in someone else's story. ⁠
⁠
My hope is that this brutal, healing work grows me & gives me peace. I hope it helps me have deeper, more consistent relationships. And I hope that it helps me show up even more lovingly and present for my children, and that they carry that forward into their lives, their relationships and maybe even their children one day.⁠
⁠
That's culture making.⁠
⁠
None of that will ever be a feature length film, or see a stage, or be on a NY Times Best Seller List. It's not going to go viral.⁠
⁠
But it's how spread the seeds for a future in which we all flourish. We heal wounds. We heal each other. We move in courage and love.⁠
⁠
Personal love is justice work, too.⁠
⁠
And it's never too late to start over.⁠
⁠
I'm starting the New Year over, in fact! The first 17 days were a blur. So let's begin again, better.⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
#WeAreTheCultureMakers⁠
There's a reason I included WEEKLY live, guided meditations in We Are The Culture Makers 2022 and it's this: ⁠
⁠
In order to really know something, in our bones, it can't ONLY come from one direction. ⁠
⁠
We need to pick up the signals from many sources. We've got to receive the messages via our heads, our hearts, our bodies and our spirits.⁠
⁠
***⁠
We deserve to feel calm. We deserve to feel relief from anxiety and stress. ⁠
⁠
Even as we're growing our lives, growing our careers, changing our culture...our lives can't be a relentless grind. ⁠
⁠
There's got to be space and grace.⁠
⁠
🌸So that the knowledge of who you are -- A CULTURE MAKER -- seeps into your bones.⁠
⁠
🌸So that this knowingness forms a protective cloak that you carry with you everywhere.⁠
⁠
🌸And so that you're regularly relieving stress and calming your central nervous system. ⁠
⁠
This world can be hell on sensitive, thoughtful women and I want our daily experience in our own skins to change.⁠
⁠
***⁠
That's why I'm so delighted that yoga breathing & meditation teacher  Ntathu Allen leads these LIVE guided meditations for us each week.⁠
⁠
Because We Are The Culture Makers is NOT about work-work-work. ⁠
⁠
Gentleness and replenishment is part of the culture-making, power-building experience we're creating, together.⁠
⁠
love + justice⁠
⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
PS We Are The Culture Makers 2022 is low-cost online group coaching collective AND 100% PURE JET FUEL. Use it to power your life, your work, and your impact in the world. I invite you to learn more at the link in profile.⁠
⁠
PPS You can find Ntathu Allen at @yogainspiresyou
Wondering if you’re worthy, ⁠
over-giving ('tis the season)⁠
questioning if you belong at the table, ⁠
and feeling like you have to do everything yourself ⁠
⁠
are NOT your natural inclinations.⁠
⁠
They’re the voice of an unjust culture working through you without your consent.⁠
⁠
So is imposter complex.⁠
⁠
We doubt ourselves because we live in a woman-doubting culture. ⁠
⁠
And...no more.⁠
⁠
Let's change the channel.⁠
⁠
Let's unlearn this toxic social conditioning⁠
and reaffirm + revalidate ourselves...⁠
⁠
...so we can shrink our self-doubt and grow our power.⁠
⁠
Personally AND collectively.⁠
⁠
Because #WeAreTheCultureMakers⁠
⁠
:::::⁠
⁠
Please, in the midst of the pressure that can come with this time of year, take a moment to connect with someone who sees your power and sincerity. Let them tell you great things about yourself. Really hear it. ⁠
⁠
And, if you can, do it for someone else. Get on the phone and praise the sh*t out of them.⁠
⁠
We're often running on empty tanks and being seen and affirmed with sincere & true words of encouragement are pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Let's fly. ⁠
⁠
Or land the planes that have been in the air too long.⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
#feministmindset #leadwithsoul #feministcoaching #embodiedleadership #womeninthearena #breakingcycles #darkbeforethedawn
We Are The Culture Makers 2022 is...⁠
⁠
🔥One part low-cost, online, group coaching...⁠
⁠
🔥One part encouragement circle where we get to know each other and find opportunities to ask for and receive support...⁠
⁠
🔥One part feminist analysis....⁠
⁠
🔥One part tools, strategies + tips for navigating -- and changing -- our lives and world...⁠
⁠
🔥And 100% pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Use it to fuel your life, your career, your relationships and your impact.⁠
⁠
Are you in? I invite you to learn more using the link in profile. ⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
#feministtraining #feministcoaching⁠ #feministselfhelp ⁠
#resourcesforwomen #womencoachingwomen #coachingforsuccess #womeninthearena #confidencemindset⁠
#feministvalues #groundedcoaching #feministcoach #settingboundariesboundary #peoplepleasing #womensempowermentcoach #selfcoaching

Sometimes, the greatest culture making we do is never 'out there' for the whole world to see.⁠
⁠
Last January, a person I almost married reached out after more than 13 years of radio silence (he literally ghosted on our engagement) to apologize for his f*ckboi ways. He'd been doing personal spiritual work to decolonize his soul, and he felt called to make amends. I think he also had the intention of releasing me from any thoughts that what happened was my fault.⁠
⁠
This January, something similar happened with someone I've been estranged from for 5 years. The amount of bravery it took to reach out to me was COLLOSSAL. I don't know the backstory but I'm willing to bet this act of courage was the result of massive inner healing.⁠
⁠
The wild thing about both of these reach-outs was that each followed on the heels of specific coaching or therapy I'd been doing to free myself of needing them to do something in order for me...to be me.⁠
⁠
(Also...there's something about January that is NOT awful, if we're doing things like this with each other.)⁠
⁠
I've been doing that work myself. I've been confronting my own demons and looking in the mirror, and sometimes had to grieve what I saw there. I've been grappling with all the ways *I* was the villain in someone else's story. ⁠
⁠
My hope is that this brutal, healing work grows me & gives me peace. I hope it helps me have deeper, more consistent relationships. And I hope that it helps me show up even more lovingly and present for my children, and that they carry that forward into their lives, their relationships and maybe even their children one day.⁠
⁠
That's culture making.⁠
⁠
None of that will ever be a feature length film, or see a stage, or be on a NY Times Best Seller List. It's not going to go viral.⁠
⁠
But it's how spread the seeds for a future in which we all flourish. We heal wounds. We heal each other. We move in courage and love.⁠
⁠
Personal love is justice work, too.⁠
⁠
And it's never too late to start over.⁠
⁠
I'm starting the New Year over, in fact! The first 17 days were a blur. So let's begin again, better.⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
#WeAreTheCultureMakers⁠
There's a reason I included WEEKLY live, guided meditations in We Are The Culture Makers 2022 and it's this: ⁠
⁠
In order to really know something, in our bones, it can't ONLY come from one direction. ⁠
⁠
We need to pick up the signals from many sources. We've got to receive the messages via our heads, our hearts, our bodies and our spirits.⁠
⁠
***⁠
We deserve to feel calm. We deserve to feel relief from anxiety and stress. ⁠
⁠
Even as we're growing our lives, growing our careers, changing our culture...our lives can't be a relentless grind. ⁠
⁠
There's got to be space and grace.⁠
⁠
🌸So that the knowledge of who you are -- A CULTURE MAKER -- seeps into your bones.⁠
⁠
🌸So that this knowingness forms a protective cloak that you carry with you everywhere.⁠
⁠
🌸And so that you're regularly relieving stress and calming your central nervous system. ⁠
⁠
This world can be hell on sensitive, thoughtful women and I want our daily experience in our own skins to change.⁠
⁠
***⁠
That's why I'm so delighted that yoga breathing & meditation teacher  Ntathu Allen leads these LIVE guided meditations for us each week.⁠
⁠
Because We Are The Culture Makers is NOT about work-work-work. ⁠
⁠
Gentleness and replenishment is part of the culture-making, power-building experience we're creating, together.⁠
⁠
love + justice⁠
⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
PS We Are The Culture Makers 2022 is low-cost online group coaching collective AND 100% PURE JET FUEL. Use it to power your life, your work, and your impact in the world. I invite you to learn more at the link in profile.⁠
⁠
PPS You can find Ntathu Allen at @yogainspiresyou
Wondering if you’re worthy, ⁠
over-giving ('tis the season)⁠
questioning if you belong at the table, ⁠
and feeling like you have to do everything yourself ⁠
⁠
are NOT your natural inclinations.⁠
⁠
They’re the voice of an unjust culture working through you without your consent.⁠
⁠
So is imposter complex.⁠
⁠
We doubt ourselves because we live in a woman-doubting culture. ⁠
⁠
And...no more.⁠
⁠
Let's change the channel.⁠
⁠
Let's unlearn this toxic social conditioning⁠
and reaffirm + revalidate ourselves...⁠
⁠
...so we can shrink our self-doubt and grow our power.⁠
⁠
Personally AND collectively.⁠
⁠
Because #WeAreTheCultureMakers⁠
⁠
:::::⁠
⁠
Please, in the midst of the pressure that can come with this time of year, take a moment to connect with someone who sees your power and sincerity. Let them tell you great things about yourself. Really hear it. ⁠
⁠
And, if you can, do it for someone else. Get on the phone and praise the sh*t out of them.⁠
⁠
We're often running on empty tanks and being seen and affirmed with sincere & true words of encouragement are pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Let's fly. ⁠
⁠
Or land the planes that have been in the air too long.⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
⁠
#feministmindset #leadwithsoul #feministcoaching #embodiedleadership #womeninthearena #breakingcycles #darkbeforethedawn