Anticipation, the anxiety about wanting to get it right, and then exhaustion – this is what it feels like every time I channel the writing gods in order to crank out a blog post worthy of an audience.
The experience is sometimes pleasant, often awkward, but most of the time good enough to want to do it all over again the next night.
And then they say no
The dark side of the experience though is that there will be times when you face rejection. There will be times when someone tells you that you aren’t good enough. We’ve all been there, and it’s not pretty.
But you know what? It’s those misfortunes that help you to right your ship and work your way towards the true object of your desire. And that’s what makes this journey…all of the ups and downs…the bumps and bruises…worthwhile.
Find your true love
And so, blogging is a lot like sex in that regard. Meaning, that it’s one of those things that no one understands except your partner or the people that just “get” you.
It’s the exhilaration of baring it all and of finally being comfortable in your own skin – that’s the true beauty of the connection. And depending on the topic, the relationship is often just as intimate and sometimes more rewarding.
Sure, the experience of connecting with a post is fleeting, but there’s always tomorrow.
I really believe that when you catch someone’s eye…when they really connect with what you have to say, then you are sharing something special. The blogger is pouring his or her heart into the experience, hoping that the person on the other side feels the same way as they do, and when you hear that “oh yeah,” that’s when you know you got it right.
As a blogger, that’s the experience you are investing in. You are giving a piece of your soul away each and every time you write a post. If you are lucky, you are blessed with a healthy child, if not…rejection.
Regardless of what the other person thinks, you’re committed, and that’s scary.
The more the merrier
But that’s what makes this world of blogging and sex so exciting. It’s exhilarating to throw yourself at someone and hope that they share your passion. It feels good to throw yourself to the wolves. And it’s fun to connect and hear that positive reinforcement, that yeah, you were good baby.
When you make that connection…when you foster a relationship…that’s when you know that you’re on your game. And when you’re on your game…well…that’s when you’ll have to ask for permission to bring another one home. Hey, it never hurts to ask…right?
_________________Nathan Hangen writes about web entrepreneurship at NathanHangen.com, and about how to use social media to fuel your brand at Making It Social. Follow him on Twitter @nhangen.