Comments on: Don’t Build Self Esteem. Build Skills.

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 02:31:35 +0000

I like something I read the other day that “luck is where preparation meets opportunity”. We can do the “prepare” part.

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 02:21:23 +0000

Oh I so LOOOOOOOOOOVE this post, Kelly! Thank you for the kind knock in the knickers; I get so tired of all that LAW OF ATTRACTION babble. You are a writing goddess!

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Weekly inspiration « Sheep and appletrees — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 13:02:27 +0000

[...] YES – Don’t build self-esteem, build skills [...]

By: Lianne

Lianne — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 06:33:05 +0000

Good stuff! You know I’m with you 100%. Affirmations, etc generally = BS and your heart ain’t buying what your head is trying to sell you.

In psychology lingo, it’s all about self-efficacy. Parental praise gets in the way. Falling on your ass and determinedly getting right back up and taking a couple more steps and falling again is the formula for learning to walk. Turns out it’s the formula for everything.

By: Brandy

Brandy — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 01:13:39 +0000

Preach it sister! And your writing skills are unparalleled. I so believe this IS going to be the year of the Kelly Diels book deal. And all because you really do practice what you preach.

By: Dave Doolin

Dave Doolin — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 00:06:03 +0000

@Kelly Diels, I know, I know, the whole author-ity thing. Rage on!

By: Kelly Diels

Kelly Diels — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 20:45:24 +0000

@Andrew Lightheart, yes yes YES.

(side note: I’m so excited that you’re here. xoxoxoxo)

And I’m a skeptic. I admit it. I don’t think there’s any secret to anything. In fact, darlin’, you might like this:

http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/05/06/the-law-of-attraction-is-not-a-law/

By: Kelly Diels

Kelly Diels — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 20:42:34 +0000

@Jason Sugar, you're so right. I think there's also a sweet spot between indulgence and reward that needs to be found. I love indulgences and daily luxuries - there's no need to Spartan in this one gorgeous life - but I suspect I need a little more delayed gratification in my life so that reward truly feels like reward. I want to savour my rewards and know they're well-earned.

By: Kelly Diels

Kelly Diels — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 20:40:12 +0000

@Dave Doolin, I actually have an ish with the word mastery - that's my inner feminist coming out to play - but the concept and it's results are leading the way right now. And thanks for the tip. 58 cents, you say...

By: Kelly Diels

Kelly Diels — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 20:39:08 +0000

@Jenn Alex Brockman, This happens to me, too. Something seems so overwhelmingly impossible that I can't even get started. I'm convinced that taking on a tiny thing beside the big thing is the first step. At times of maximum stuckness, volunteering in something entirely unrelated has helped me have the confidence and gratitude (for my own gifts) to try or try again. That, and completing a task, however small.