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everybody hurts | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 20:43:15 +0000

[...] fear is a gift. So is loneliness. We keep trying to conquer fear and banish loneliness but there are lessons there. We need [...]

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By: Leigh

Leigh — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 05:17:58 +0000

“Maybe lonely could be my best friend, if only I’d let him.”

This hit a nerve. If Lonely is our most enduring companion, maybe it’s time to welcome him/her to the party. To say, “hello, I know you’re here. I know you’ll always be here.” I wonder if by acknowledging lonely, we’d actually be taking away some of its power. Loads of new thoughts, untested and radical, are springing forth.

By: Lindsey

Lindsey — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 01:20:12 +0000

If Lonely is my closest companion as well as yours, doesn’t that, by transitive properties, mean that you can be my companion? I sure as hell hope so. xox

By: shelly

shelly — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 18:08:08 +0000

I’m not sure if lonely is your gift, but writing is. Still, there’s little solace in that when what you really want is a paramour/lover/friend/partner who knows he can’t heal your lonely–but he can block its shadow.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 17:34:21 +0000

@Jesse, Beautifully put Jesse...

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 16:48:29 +0000

Yes. You already know that our experiences are running parallel to each other with a simple change in details/gender.

I am/was so lost about who I am alone, what that would really look like (I’ve been coupled, co-habitated) for 27 out of 30 of my adult years), that I started a sci-fi short story about waking up to life truly alone. Because this reply is getting lengthy, I’ll post about it. I wanted to “watch” what I’d do after the shock and depression wore off.

I’ll put it on the “other” blog (www.mizkcreations.blogspot.com).

All I can say is “warm hug” and neither of us is truly alone and are we lusting for something, as I’ve written, that is not-human? Just askin’.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 16:19:11 +0000

“Forgive myself.” It’s always at the top of the list and always the one left unchecked. I feel stronger when I read your work, like I could staple your words to my forehead. Thank you.

By: Dave Doolin

Dave Doolin — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 15:09:21 +0000

Confront, conquer, just labels for parsing out the emotion from the identity. Getting your label right helps with the parsing.

By: April

April — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 14:55:54 +0000

So very good. So very true. Just what I need to hear (again) as I face these days (weeks? months? years?) of loneliness after losing my relationship.