Comments on: Lucky(ish), Second Time Around

By: Christina Majaski

Christina Majaski — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 15:55:18 +0000

Reminded me of the song “Lucky”

And so I’m sailing through the sea
To an island where we’ll meet
You’ll hear the music fill the air
I’ll put a flower in your hair…

We’re all lucky for anyone that crosses our paths with words that actually mean something.

By: NVRGOBACK65

NVRGOBACK65 — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 15:35:47 +0000

Very interesting Blog, have never blogged but a co-work turned me on to Cleavage as he says I remind him of Kelly! And to my surprise, we are very similar! Can’t wait to read more!

Laura

By: Brahm (alfred lives here)

Brahm (alfred lives here) — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 03:20:12 +0000

Okay okay what happened next? Need to know!

And Lucky should know that luck may open the door for you, buddy, but then you gotta step up and make it happen!

By: Dave Doolin

Dave Doolin — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 01:17:06 +0000

@Irving Podolsky, try a search on Google, find the Wikipedia link. It's pretty funny.

By: Irving Podolsky

Irving Podolsky — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 03:23:28 +0000

@Dave Doolin, Turtles? I'm so far out of the loop I can't figure that out. Irv

By: Dave Doolin

Dave Doolin — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:14:20 +0000

@Irving Podolsky, turtles, all the way down.

By: Irving Podolsky

Irving Podolsky — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 16:08:34 +0000

Yes there’s a lot of subtext here to talk about, and I think we can all relate to Kelly’s story. Certainly I can, because I run into people all the time who express behavior to me that breaks down our relationship. So I tell them about it, they apologize, promise me that they’ll change, and don’t.

This bring brings me to LEVEL TWO: Maybe it’s not my job to make them change. Perhaps I should either accept their behaviors or leave their lives.

But there’s a LEVEL THREE: What about myself? What behaviors do I express that disconnects people from MY life? And this question relates to the workplace as well. DO I change when I know my behavior is damaging my relationships? There is always room for improvements. Isn’t there? If I expect people to bend towards me, should I not also bend towards them, assuming I agree with their suggestions?

Bingo! I’ve arrived at LEVEL FOUR: Suppose I don’t accept their advice, and they are RIGHT about me. Suppose I choose not to change because I don’t believe them. Where does that leave me? In LEVEL FIVE I guess, without an answer…at least yet.

Irv

By: PicsieChick

PicsieChick — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:41:08 +0000

@Siddhartha, I agree it’s deeper than it appears, but I’m thinking it’s more about our tendency to romanticize those who empower us, who help us save ourselves.

I know of what I speak. I’ve been crushing on Kelly since I found her blog.

Hugs and butterflies,
~T~

By: Siddhartha

Siddhartha — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 13:11:54 +0000

You’re one of the deepest writers I actually enjoy reading so, looking beyond the obvious, I’m going to guess this is a post about communication not relationships.

By: Joan

Joan — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 11:24:31 +0000

Lucky may have given you the tools, but you had to pick them up and use them — and that part isn’t easy. I’ve been there — had my own epiphany on what I would and wouldn’t tolerate from men. As Dr. Phil says, we teach people how to treat us. There was a guy. And I was deeply, madly, passionately in love/lust with him. And he was a sh*t. Finally, after doing one of his disappearing acts, he called me out of the blue wanting to get together. I said, “I really don’t think we have anything to say to one another. Please don’t call me again.” Such a painful moment for me, cutting off my past and what I fantasized would be my future. And so empowering. From that moment, I never again let a man take advantage of me. It was a seminal moment in my life, and your writing brought it all back. Thanks – I can’t wait to hear if there’s more!