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Tue, 28 Dec 2010 20:49:24 +0000

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By: Annie Stith (@Gr8fulAnnie)

Annie Stith (@Gr8fulAnnie) — Sun, 08 Aug 2010 11:01:52 +0000

Hey, Kelly!

*Ahem*

“Death by cats” is not only a choice, but an HONORABLE one when it becomes obvious that commitments with other people triggers a hugely deep, ingrained-in-the-personality codependency where all parties involved (including pirates) limp (run? sail?) away so damaged that, often, professional help is required.

For 35 years, my codependency has proven NOT to be unlearnable, despite the varying kinds of therapy, medications and/or steps worked.

Codependency with cats is far less damaging. (And careful attention to the trimming of claws makes the shredding of furniture near-impossible. One simply needs to be tougher than the cat–and have lots of treats ready for after.)

Annie

By: ocbenji

ocbenji — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 18:56:47 +0000

Ahhh freedom! The elusive temptress who never gives me her phone number.

Thank you for this, it couldn’t have come at a better time.

By: Justine Musk

Justine Musk — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 22:45:08 +0000

Not to put too eloquent a point on it, but this is a brilliant fucking post. How did you get so wise, woman?

Relationship vs pirate ship? LOVE.

Have you read A Vindication of Love by Christina Nehring? Would love your thoughts on it. I have a bit of difficulty with some of the book — I’m too well-versed in love & sex addiction not to — but I think she makes very sound points about how we’ve attempted to take the fear out of intimacy by bleaching and sanitizing and domesticating it (a.k.a. “marriage”…I mean, what’s so great about a white picket fence anyway? they are bars. that hem you in.). So indeed, how to be the owner of a wild romantic soul *and* fulfilling long-term relationship? (Where are the information products on *that*?)

Maybe we’re not looking for partners…but partners in crime…but crime never pays, & we *know* that…

And now the urge to go drink some bourbon.

By: Tara

Tara — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 15:20:49 +0000

“Freedom is the ability to choose and live your choice.”
Hallelujah. Because it’s not the one time choosing. And it’s not Dave’s binary choices.
The freedom (and the commitment) is in the LIVING. The daily choices in a whole spectrum of colors and tones and options.
Do I flirt with the barrista? (a bit.) Do I flirt with his cousin? (not even a smidge.)
Do I do the (fill in unpleasant task) or start a fight because he NEVER does it?
Do I reach out when I can see he’s upset?
Do I push it when he says he doesn’t want to talk but really I know he just wants to avoid addressing something?
It’s all choices and it’s all freedom.
And it’s all living and making my life little moment by moment

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By: Miscelena

Miscelena — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 04:39:54 +0000

I’m reminded of the Ellis Paul lyric:

“And I get the sensation
It’s joy and frustration
Like getting caught by a drop of cold rain
Freedom can numb you
When there’s no place to run to
It feels just like Novocaine”

(The rest of the song is here:
http://ellispaul.com/index.php?page=songs&category=Translucent_Soul&display=4472 )

By: Dave Doolin

Dave Doolin — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 03:55:47 +0000

@Irving Podolsky, subtext.

By: Irish Gumbo

Irish Gumbo — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 00:33:51 +0000

“In ancient Rome there was a poem,
about a dog who found two bones,
He picked at one,
He licked the other
He went in circles, until
He dropped dead”
- Devo, “Freedom of Choice”

It started in the supermarket, for me. Then it spread to the rest of my life. Freedom is choice. You nailed it.

By: Hannah

Hannah — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 23:21:30 +0000

‘Freedom is choice’

Amen to that. Thanks for a great post, Kelly