Comments on: Nice Girls and Nice Guys Finish Middle (Class)

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By: Heather

Heather — Sat, 08 May 2010 20:47:53 +0000

I’m ‘good’ at being ‘nice’.

I just honestly don’t like to and it angers me every single time. Kinda not worth it for me really! Must say though, you rock. Think you hit it dead on with this article.

Down with ‘Nice’.

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By: Ms Constantine

Ms Constantine — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 23:08:41 +0000

AMAZING post. I’m seeing a guy at the moment who says that I seem to like bastards, and that’s why I’m with him. Thing is, he isn’t actually a bastard at all. He is passionate, and comfortable with himself, he doesn’t hide himself under a layer of nice. And he doesn’t get upset when I don’t hide my rage or when I fly my freak flag.

Compare this to my 7 year relationship with a lovely guy who was genuinely nice (not in the way you’re talking about here) but a bit of a push over, who was passionless and uncomfortable with how I choose to express myself, and you can easily see why the guy who appears to be a bad boy wins.

By: Sean Deacon Neprud

Sean *Deacon* Neprud — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 18:39:57 +0000

Nice guys? Manipulative little creepy bastards. I had some nice guy cooties for a while, but blew them off. Thank Goodness.

By: Marvelous Monday! : Wicked Whimsy

Marvelous Monday! : Wicked Whimsy — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 13:10:00 +0000

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By: Leah

Leah — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 14:46:19 +0000

Yup. Brings to mind a scene with my “nice” ex-husband and I at the marriage counselor for our 3rd or 4th session. Mr. Quiet, Polite, and Nice had quietly been razzing me for days until I was ready to scream (though of course I tried to talk about it with him, whatever his problem was yada yada). In the session, he quietly and nicely interrupted me when it was my turn to share (or whatever) but I knew all-too-well the anger burning in his eyes or clench of the jaw or in the twitch of his foot–well-hidden to most. I said Excuse me!! in no uncertain terms and pretty much snapped.

Long story short, the “problem” in the marriage was me and my “anger issues.” Mm-hhm. Right. I didn’t know I had such a capacity for anger until I got married to him lol My bad–I fully realize the mistake I made. But still. Seems this “therapist” had issues with a woman who doesn’t mind being angry in public and is assertive so she jumped on me. I was like WTF? I’m angry for a reason. Can’t we talk about that? Doesn’t that matter? I’m not pissed off for no reason–we’re finally getting somewhere and now you want to focus on the fact that I have normal responses to messed up shit? lol

Nice, in my experience (not just this one), is a huge facade for repression and passive-aggression and serious issues until proven otherwise lol. Give me honesty any day.