Comments on: Talk is Not Intimacy. The Tyranny of Words.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 21:25:53 +0000

And there’s the rub…
If your children are grown or simply don’t exist and you have no real significant others, the loneliness that no touch brings is the loneliest of all, right? I propose touch clubs where silence is mandatory but a full court skin-to-skin eye contact press is what your cover charge will get you.

Because I’m articulate and “good” when I need to be, people assume I love to talk. I don’t. In fact, in many ways I hate it. I like friends whose sofas I can recline on and with whom I can share the silent love of reading together. They are few and far between. If there is a cuddle in there, it’s a bonus.

Much love,
K.

By: Renee Michelle (Michelmustro)

Renee Michelle (Michelmustro) — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 05:15:56 +0000

@Kelly Diels,

Thank you!

By: Renee Michelle (Michelmustro)

Renee Michelle (Michelmustro) — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 05:11:26 +0000

@Kelly Diels,

Yes, “just Be”. That advice started coming to me from various people, in different ways about three years ago. It is still something I have to remember to do. I need to, “BE” authentic. I need to breathe and relax at all times, and not allow nervous energy or quite moments to force me to speak. The moments and the emotions have their own unspoken vibes.

I agree wholeheartedly John, “nonverbal communication is the primal language.” ~ Renee (michealmustro)

By: Tracy Todd

Tracy Todd — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 11:43:19 +0000

Kelly if your language is body talking then you should be doing it as often as possible just because you can! My language was also body talking but now that I am paralyzed from my neck down I’m forced to talk with words. I’m grateful that I am still able to talk but oh my gosh I miss that body talk more than anything in the world!

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A Good Fable Never Fails to Terrorize | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 07:04:50 +0000

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By: Zoey @ Good Goog

Zoey @ Good Goog — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 06:17:43 +0000

I am not a touchy person in body. People mistake this for lack of emotion and affection often. What I really hate is anyone touching me when I’m upset. I know it’s supposed to be comforting, but I don’t feel comforted, I feel too raw to tolerate another person’s closeness.

I talk alot. I bore people often. Or, more likely the barrage of words overwhelms them.

I’m a snuggle bunny with my daughter though. She is only just starting to talk now – so up until this point a huge amount of our communication has been non verbal. I can only hope that when she’s too embarrassed for cuddles, words will be enough.

By: Shannon O | Confessions of a Loving Wife

Shannon O | Confessions of a Loving Wife — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 02:34:29 +0000

My Dad once told me that one of the most monumental moments of his life was the first time I independently got myself and my younger brother out of bed on a Saturday morning, poured the milk for our cereal unassisted and even had the consideration to press the on button on our prefilled coffeemaker so that our parents could sleep in.

By: MDTaz

MDTaz — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 21:13:28 +0000

Reading this post makes me want to go upstairs and crawl into bed with my sleeping girls, despite the fact that by the time I they got into to bed this evening, I was so ready for them to be there. In the morning they will stumble into my room and crawl in bed ad press their bodies up against mine before we begin to talk about the night’s sleep. You’re so right, of course it’s all connected, body and words, not one or the other. Not one from the other.

What remains with me, from your post: if I want them to stay in their bodies, I, too, must remain in mine.

By: Catherine Caine

Catherine Caine — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 20:32:54 +0000

@Amelia, I'm a total-body hugger with all my friends. One of them had SERIOUS personal space issues and didn't want to hug for the first 5 years of our friendship. He got there eventually, though!

By: Annabel

Annabel — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 17:42:56 +0000

@Kelly Diels, When I first moved to France I was taken aback by having to kiss people I just met on both cheeks, but once I got used to it I enjoyed it. It's a good ice breaker for new friends, and a nice way to greet old friends (if it's a more formal relationship, they just shake hands).