Comments on: Criticism: It Doesn’t Have To Be a Little Shop of Horrors

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By: Starting and all other things pertaining to an introduction

Starting and all other things pertaining to an introduction — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 08:56:39 +0000

[...] writing doesn’t fit anywhere else where I’m writing so it will end up here. It’s all Kelly’s fault really. I’d been talking about starting this blog for ages but you know what happens when you have [...]

By: violet

violet — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 04:40:08 +0000

@Dave Doolin, In response, I’ve signed up for your email list.

By: David Cain

David Cain — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 04:00:00 +0000

Ah it stings! It really does.

And a critical remark seems to have a hundred times the impact of a positive comment.

A hundred people tell you they love your blog and you rock their world and you’ve made them see the light, and then one cranky stranger says “this blows” and the whole day darkens.

I’m confident what I do is more than half-decent but I suppose there is some lingering doubt there that criticism snags and stirs up in me. Nice to know I’m not alone.

By: Allyn

Allyn — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 01:53:44 +0000

You are Pamela Landi and I am Jason Bourne, think about it! “Treadstone has been terminated”

First off, I want to complement your use of internal SEO linking in this post, great work Kelly!

Next, I am glad I have changed, and I am glad you were able to allow me to be real and stupid at the same time and we could still connect in a positive way.
You are one of my faves on the nets, for real!
thank you!
AL

By: Alisa Bowman

Alisa Bowman — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 22:32:24 +0000

Oh girlfriend,I’m there babe. Do I suck? Does he think I suck? I swear when I read that comment yesterday that person really thought I sucked, but now I read that comment and it doesn’t seem that person thinks I suck at all.

But it all makes you better.

By: Amber

Amber — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 20:32:07 +0000

The unexpected criticism from strangers really is awful. Before I do anything else, I try to remember that it is not even usually about me. We are all so caught up in our own stuff, and keeping that in mind keeps me sane. It also helps me to maintain my own perspective, and remember that the way that I’m receiving comments is more about me than the commenter. Just because I’m reading negativity doesn’t mean that it’s actually there.

By: Eleanor Edwards

Eleanor Edwards — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 19:53:30 +0000

@Kelly Diels,

Not at all, thank you And yes, talking would very cool. Just need to find a time when we’re both awake enough. lol.

By: Dave Doolin

Dave Doolin — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 19:40:58 +0000

The only thing that really stings is when people unsubscribe from my email list. I’ve built it very carefully, very slowly, and I always try to make sure there is a lot of value going out along with any sales.

I can see why “real marketers” use bribe boxes and sell the way they do. They are doing the same work, but getting more return.

Disheartening, and calls into question the “received opinion” of this community.

For the near future, I’m going to continue doing what I’m doing.

By: Ragnar

Ragnar — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 19:15:58 +0000

Hey I like attention too. Who doesn’t? It’s one of the tastiest foods I know about *nom nom nom*.

Anyway I find that most serious criticism is always grounded in something but has a tendency to get stronger based on the critic’s personal opinion. Which is why I don’t like giving out critique because subduing your own personal opinion is hell. Times two. For me that is.

Your blog is “teh awesome”. Inspires me to keep going. Did I mention I’m not really good at giving out critique either?

Anyway, have a great Friday.