My Name is Kelly Diels, and I am a Parent. Except I hate the word “parent”. Mama or bust.

I used to write about my kids.

You know, “write what you know”.  I know my kids. So, sometimes, a lot of the time, I wrote about parenting. I mean, who wanted to know about my ideas?

Now, I write about my ideas – mostly about sex (did you notice?), money, and meaning.

And you know what topic encompasses (and is the logical continuation of…) sex, money, and meaning?


Babies are sometimes the outcome of sex. Raising kids requires that you talk about sex and get real clear about your attitudes about sex.

Raising kids also requires money and talking to and teaching your kids about money.

And meaning. Oh my goodness, the meaning. To be a mama is everything to me.

Joy. And sheer, unmitigating, exhausting labour.

Dan Savage says that parenting is

Yep. That’s about right, according to me, too.

And so we often talk about the misery: the late nights, the unreasonable toddler, the incessant volume – oh the incessant volume – the exhaustion, the child who will just not sleep in her own bed.

And then she crawls into my bed and takes up residence in the small of my back, and I’m home.

And so, here’s a quick primer on my thoughts on parenting (mostly, I lean towards ‘unparenting’. As in: let’s just be.)

Feminism and The Cult of Imperial Motherhood

An Epic Story of Unrequited Love

The Politics of Hair and How Salon Just Ruined My Life. Pity the Children.

Guest Post at Raising My Boychick: We Will Braid Our Way To Revolution, Baby

Why Being a Single Mom is GREAT for your Dating Life

How To Help Your Child Succeed in Life, and Extra-Curricular Activities are NOT It

Mamafesto. Unfinished. In progress. Just Like the Kids, and Me.

Barack Obama Just Won The Nobel Peace Prize. Next, He Makes Over Disney. I Can Feel It.

Happy Father’s Day to Fathers, Feminists and Slackers

How to Stop Being Judgmental

How to Like Your Crazy Little Kids

For My Baby Girl, Who Is Not A Baby Any More

Miss Sophie: Ten Things I Love About You

Mo’ Money Mo’ Problems Mo’ Babies. Yes Please.


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About the author

Kelly Diels I'm Kelly Diels. I'm a writer. I've written for Salon, Jezebel, XO Jane, Problogger, Write to Done and more. I'm currently working on a book about chasing the happy dragon and The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand. Interested? Please subscribe to my newsletter and I'll share more thoughts and chapters with you as I write them. You can also find me on Facebook and darlin', please do. xoxo, K