You weren’t re-victimizing your ‘hurtee’ by calling them often, as much as you were stalking them with the best intentions. Someone I once hurt needed an explanation years later. She came to my high school reunion, to my apartment building, my work. Then we got together and had a nice talk.

I felt lightened afterward. It’s good to know others share the same sense.

Your post made me add this PS:

The young lady wanted me to know that she wasn’t some leftover at the dating buffet, so I told her she was the catch of the day at the nicest restaurant in town. The food references are accidental. The woman had gained over a hundred pounds since we’d dated, but she was still the sweetheart I remembered. That’s what I told her. I think it was the right thing.

See you in divorce court?

I’m more of an ambivalent acquaintance, from opposite sides of the tracks. And I’m shaking off the ambivalence, even now, even now, even now.

And this Law of Attraction and creating reality with your thinking looks to me like a secular version of pray for what you want and you will get it, aka the Prosperity Gospel. If you don’t get what you want, that’s because you didn’t pray hard enough, or you didn’t pray right. How clever of the inventor, to steal crap religion and foist it on everyone else.