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Sun, 20 Jun 2010 16:43:05 +0000

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Thu, 22 Apr 2010 17:57:10 +0000

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Mon, 29 Mar 2010 02:43:31 +0000

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By: kellydiels

kellydiels — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:22:56 +0000

thank you. bold is my new favourite word.

I think there is something to ‘branding hell’. There’s a ‘name it, claim it’ that is both envigorating and scary.

By: kellydiels

kellydiels — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:21:17 +0000

I’m good with my weirdness – even relish it, really – and I worry that it is intersecting with something external, socially, that is disconcerting.

I think it is bigger than just me.

On the one hand, yay women who are unrepentantly embracing and flaunting the sexuality and sexual power. I think this profound, and vital, and it is a source of strength and comfort for me on many, and deep levels.

Yet, it seems to me, that the way in which it gets expressed is very narrow. It is as though our society took one experience of sexuality – whatever gets the young, male, heterosexual dick hard, and yay for them! really – and generalized it to mean “sex” and “sexuality” entirely.

(Actually, it is not ‘as if’ – it is a fact. IMHO)

And sometimes – lots of times – that vision, writ large, causes anguish to people who fall out of it. It offers power – and sexual power – only to a few, who incidentally coincide with its outlines and ambitions.

So that’s what I’m talking about. Clearly, not well. But I’m getting there.

And you, my fifty-something, former elephant-riding, number-crunching “matron” with a full back tattoo who writes thoughtful, encouraging, excellent blog comments – you rock. That is all.

By: Chris Baltzley

Chris Baltzley — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:07:31 +0000

Well, I, for one, kind of like the idea that on the surface I look like your standard, suburban, 50+ matron – until you realize that I have a FULL back tattoo. And then if we get to talking you might find out that I work in accounting but that I spent several years in the circus doing aerial work and riding elephants – which I dropped out of graduate school to do (art history!).
Your problem might just be that you are still a little too young to feel comfortable with the weirdness – and having kids definitely complicates that whole thing. I have always said that it would be really nice when I got to the age that people started to consider me “eccentric” instead of just strange. Think I’m ALMOST there!

By: Coach Cassandra Rae

Coach Cassandra Rae — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:53:03 +0000

Wow…thanks for the peak into the brain behind the cleavage! I myself am currently struggling with the whole branding hell thing. It’s nice to know I’m not alone and for the record, I love your style. It’s bold.