Comments on: I Don’t Need You: A Love Story – by Josh Hanagarne

By: Existential Cleavage: How much do you love me? And who’s in charge? | Cleavage by Kelly Diels.

Sun, 28 Aug 2011 21:30:40 +0000

[...] And did you read Josh Hanagarne’s piece, I Don’t Need You, A Love Story? [...]

By: The Forgiven. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels.

The Forgiven. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 21:45:23 +0000

[...] People and relationships don’t wait for you to be ready. Maybe you grow through relationships. Maybe relationships provide the context for challenging you to become a person ready for a relationship. Maybe we’re all fixer-uppers. [...]

By: Lisis

Lisis — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:47:04 +0000

@kellydiels, Oversight, my dear… you are totally invited!

By: kellydiels

kellydiels — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 01:29:09 +0000

Is there a martini/margarita that needs drinking? I’d oblige but strangely MY invitation is missing

By: Lisis

Lisis — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:01:27 +0000

Awesome story, Josh! And, I believe you are right… one of the easiest ways to want to stay together is to not NEED each other. Sounds weird but, when two complete, whole individuals choose to be together, it is a much more beautiful thing than broken people leaning on each other. I suppose they both have their place, but I’m glad I’ve made it to THIS side… the same side you two are on now.

And, yeah… what Lori said is true. We have BIG plans for margarita night with Janette (she just doesn’t know it yet!).

By: Lindsey

Lindsey — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 03:09:49 +0000

I love this. It reminds me of what I told my husband on the night before our wedding (9+ years ago now). He still, to this days, says it was the scariest thing I’ve ever said to him. I looked at him and told him I was looking forward to marrying him, and that I believed we were vowing to walk together as long as our paths were parallel. And that I hoped that was forever, but we would never know.
I believe this in my marrow.
To force it is the beginning of the death. And I think it is naive to think that we can know at the beginning of a relationship where our individual road is going, and who we are supposed to become. Therefore, my logic tells me we cannot really promise that Always and Forever are there. Because who knows who we will want and need?
But that is, in the end, a place where the more authentic relationship comes from, at least in my view.

Lindsey

By: Lori

Lori — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 02:52:24 +0000

Josh,

Eloquence.
Beauty.
Tears.
Recognition.
Love.

These are all the things I felt reading your post here. You are lucky you have each other.
(Thanks to Kelly for hosting Josh, he’s a real cool cat.)
Thanks for taking me on your journey.
I couldn’t have said it better myself!
Cheers to you and happy anniversary!
~xo
Lori
P.S. Lisis (Q4B) and I decided we want to meet your wife. She is officially in the cool chickas club and we want to take her out for a martini.

By: Josh Hanagarne

Josh Hanagarne — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:54:44 +0000

Kelly, thanks for inviting me to crash my shabby antics into your classy blog. You are too jolly for words.