Comments on: Ending a Good Thing for an Even Better Reason. Almost. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost Cleavage is about the three things everyone wants more of: sex, money and meaning. Kelly Diels is writing through the lines that shape us. Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:52:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Sensual Massage and The Art of RSS | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-34527 Sensual Massage and The Art of RSS | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. Wed, 29 Jun 2011 23:05:13 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-34527 [...] You might want to talk to her about that. My mother stopped reading after I wrote that you and I have OUTRAGEOUS SEX so by the time I got to the PORN shirt, she was [...] [...] You might want to talk to her about that. My mother stopped reading after I wrote that you and I have OUTRAGEOUS SEX so by the time I got to the PORN shirt, she was [...]

]]> By: Carolyn http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-33969 Carolyn Wed, 09 Mar 2011 02:22:24 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-33969 When I read your writing it's like reading my own thoughts! I love your blog. I thought that being a skinny woman would allow me to get any man I wanted and it has not worked out that way. I now have a body that men love, but I have exactly the same success rate I've always had (which is low I suspect because I'm eccentric). I bought into the myth that if I could just be pretty enough, I'd get what I wanted. But I had a guy tell me yesterday that I was so beautiful I must get any guy I want and the truth is that I don't. When I read your writing it’s like reading my own thoughts! I love your blog.

I thought that being a skinny woman would allow me to get any man I wanted and it has not worked out that way. I now have a body that men love, but I have exactly the same success rate I’ve always had (which is low I suspect because I’m eccentric).

I bought into the myth that if I could just be pretty enough, I’d get what I wanted. But I had a guy tell me yesterday that I was so beautiful I must get any guy I want and the truth is that I don’t.

]]> By: The thin line – cleavage, even – between vulnerability as strength and just out-and-out stupidity. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-25507 The thin line – cleavage, even – between vulnerability as strength and just out-and-out stupidity. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. Fri, 02 Apr 2010 06:09:19 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-25507 [...] wondered about butterflies recently, too, when I started dating the no-longer-calling Gentleman Caller. I wondered what it said about us that neither of us were feeling the grand passion [...] [...] wondered about butterflies recently, too, when I started dating the no-longer-calling Gentleman Caller. I wondered what it said about us that neither of us were feeling the grand passion [...]

]]> By: Leah Rubin http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-103 Leah Rubin Thu, 24 Sep 2009 06:17:33 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-103 Hi, Kelly. I just bestowed the "I Give Good Blog" award on you. Check it out on my new post. May it bring you increased traffic and some new readers!<br /><br />Best regards-- Hi, Kelly. I just bestowed the “I Give Good Blog” award on you. Check it out on my new post. May it bring you increased traffic and some new readers!

Best regards–

]]> By: Kat http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Kat Wed, 23 Sep 2009 21:30:47 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-102 I'm glad this worked out the way it did... some of the biggest relationship mistakes I have made came from assuming I knew why someone else was acting a certain way, or that I knew what they wanted, or didn't want. I’m glad this worked out the way it did… some of the biggest relationship mistakes I have made came from assuming I knew why someone else was acting a certain way, or that I knew what they wanted, or didn’t want.

]]> By: Leah Rubin http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Leah Rubin Wed, 23 Sep 2009 21:28:41 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-101 Kelly, Kelly, Kelly... You are a wonderful writer and a beautiful human being. Think of the wonderful messages you are sending your daughters every moment of every day, just by your awareness of the societal pressures and values they (we) face...<br /><br />I was totally with you on your decision to bolt, then so delighted with your actual ending (thus far!) Game on? Yowza! So happy to hear that the friendship (and fabulous sex) is still intact! Congrats on making such good choices! Kelly, Kelly, Kelly… You are a wonderful writer and a beautiful human being. Think of the wonderful messages you are sending your daughters every moment of every day, just by your awareness of the societal pressures and values they (we) face…

I was totally with you on your decision to bolt, then so delighted with your actual ending (thus far!) Game on? Yowza! So happy to hear that the friendship (and fabulous sex) is still intact! Congrats on making such good choices!

]]> By: Kelly Diels http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Kelly Diels Wed, 23 Sep 2009 09:17:35 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-100 you write from your generous heart and your words land. thank you. you write from your generous heart and your words land. thank you.

]]> By: Ronna Detrick http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-99 Ronna Detrick Wed, 23 Sep 2009 07:59:25 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-99 Oh, amazing, brave, and beautiful woman. You are enough...and you are not too much. No matter the ending of this post (or this story), you are fighting the fight on more levels than I can even count. It's stunning. You are stunning. And I feel honored to be in conversation with you, to read your words, to hear your heart, to be inspired by your integrity, and to know another who unabashedly wears high heels. <br /><br />Bottom line: beauty, dignity, and truth embodied in every way possible. You. Oh, amazing, brave, and beautiful woman. You are enough…and you are not too much. No matter the ending of this post (or this story), you are fighting the fight on more levels than I can even count. It’s stunning. You are stunning. And I feel honored to be in conversation with you, to read your words, to hear your heart, to be inspired by your integrity, and to know another who unabashedly wears high heels.

Bottom line: beauty, dignity, and truth embodied in every way possible. You.

]]> By: Kelly Diels http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Kelly Diels Wed, 23 Sep 2009 07:56:56 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-98 Thanks Josh for your loooooong and excellent comment! You're completely right - I can't know what anyone else wants. Hence the asking. The talking. This understanding business is a collaborative venture :) Thanks Josh for your loooooong and excellent comment! You’re completely right – I can’t know what anyone else wants. Hence the asking. The talking. This understanding business is a collaborative venture :)

]]> By: Josh Hanagarne http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/09/23/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/comment-page-1/#comment-97 Josh Hanagarne Wed, 23 Sep 2009 07:28:25 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/09/ending-a-good-thing-for-an-even-better-reason-almost/#comment-97 Kelly, a brave post and I'm glad that you haven't ended things yet. I've been in more than one relationship where the woman decided she knew what I wanted, despite all evidence to the contrary, and despite my sincere protests. And yes, once it was the thin thing, which was not fair. I did not care. I really didn't. But she thought that because I was a man she knew things. My opinion meant nothing. <br /><br />Always, always be willing to hear someone out. Then, if your gut still says bolt, then go and Godspeed. But having someone decide they know your mind is a brutal feeling and can be devastating. That relationship made it hard for me to trust the next woman, which wasn't fair to the next woman, or to me. <br /><br />Perceptions are way harder to debate your way out of than facts. <br /><br />I've been there. <br /><br />I know you'll make the right choice, though. Your genius is not just limited to physical gifts, I'm sure of it:) Kelly, a brave post and I’m glad that you haven’t ended things yet. I’ve been in more than one relationship where the woman decided she knew what I wanted, despite all evidence to the contrary, and despite my sincere protests. And yes, once it was the thin thing, which was not fair. I did not care. I really didn’t. But she thought that because I was a man she knew things. My opinion meant nothing.

Always, always be willing to hear someone out. Then, if your gut still says bolt, then go and Godspeed. But having someone decide they know your mind is a brutal feeling and can be devastating. That relationship made it hard for me to trust the next woman, which wasn’t fair to the next woman, or to me.

Perceptions are way harder to debate your way out of than facts.

I’ve been there.

I know you’ll make the right choice, though. Your genius is not just limited to physical gifts, I’m sure of it:)

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