Comments on: Question Butterflies. Question: Butterflies?

By: Ella Walker

Ella Walker — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 17:58:05 +0000

I also suffer from panic attacks and i can manage it by deep and slow breathing. i also practice meditation.. *

By: The thin line – cleavage, even – between vulnerability as strength and just out-and-out stupidity. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels.

Thu, 01 Apr 2010 22:15:00 +0000

[...] wondered about butterflies recently, too, when I started dating the no-longer-calling Gentleman Caller. I wondered what it [...]

By: butterflies are a drug and I’m in rehab | Cleavage by Kelly Diels.

butterflies are a drug and I’m in rehab | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 07:17:29 +0000

[...] I question butterflies. I like them. They don’t happen to me a lot. What’s that all about? [...]

By: Kelly Diels

Kelly Diels — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 05:54:09 +0000

Jillian, thank you so much for your thoughtful, heartfelt observations. Your story lands with me. Fingers crossed

By: Jillian Davis

Jillian Davis — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 20:23:45 +0000

this post resonated with me. i consider myself passionate & joyful. I ‘fell’ for my BF (two years since our first date as of TODAY!) almost instantly, but it was never butterflies. it was a recognition, an excited hopped up feeling by email, and when I met him, excited in person, too. but really, it was about feeling that i met the person i could truly co-exist with, and being careful for the ensuing weeks that i wasn’t imaginging it and that he returned my feelings.

i was right, but there was never really a process of ‘falling in love’ like i had previously experienced. yet this is the best, most dedicated, functional, fun, warm & cool relationship i’ve ever experienced (and it is not without its problems & elephants in the room). i too have worried if i was mis-reading signals and if the lack of ‘fall -hard ‘ stuff meant there was something lacking that i was unaware of. my conclusion has ever been & remains this. if i’m missing something, i’m certainly unaware of it. my cup runneth over. and since we all live in the crux of our present, with a hopeful future, is anything more needed? Sorry for the long reply. I am really enjoying your blog.

By: Kelly Diels . com

Kelly Diels . com — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 05:39:42 +0000

Ending a Good Thing for an Even Better Reason. Almost.

I’m ending a relationship because I’m fat. We have passionate, easy, hours-long conversations, warmth, affection, respect, and outrageous sex. OUTRAGEOUS. Friendship, respect and hot sex: a pretty great foundation, right? What more can I ask for?Everything.Neither of us have butterflies. We were intensely comfortable with each other, right away. We’re both romantics, so naturally this worries us. Where is the infatuation? What does the lack of infatuation mean? Where can this go if it doesn’t start with addiction-like chemical highs? I asked around. Lots of people seemed to think this is no …

By: Leigh_Constant Cravings

Leigh_Constant Cravings — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 09:31:34 +0000

The butterflies usually accompany the “I need to know everything about you” feeling. I think my butterflies stem from the risk associated with wanting to invest in someone.

By: Beth L. Gainer

Beth L. Gainer — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 01:00:26 +0000

Interesting about the butterflies. I think of the nervous feelings one gets about some event or person more like caterpillars. Having a full life experience that results is the butterfly.

When I get anxious, I get sick to my stomach, so I don’t feel like there’s anything inside of me except for my own anxiety.

By: Kelly Diels

Kelly Diels — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 06:43:46 +0000

Stephen, Ronna, Vanessa, Amanda: Thanks for all the comments – I will be writing a follow up piece based on your answers (and of course my thoughts, now that the fog of the panic attack has cleared.)

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 23:25:08 +0000

For me, butterflies either indicate excitement or danger in a relationship. Honestly, a good relationship needs to have a bit of both. Neither lasts forever so heed the butterflies as they flutter and fuhgedaboutit when they don’t.