Comments on: The Politics of Hair and How Salon Just Ruined My Life. Pity the Children. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children Cleavage is about the three things everyone wants more of: sex, money and meaning. Kelly Diels is writing through the lines that shape us. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:11:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: I Don’t Have Time for A Mid-life Crisis Because I Just Got Cable. A Social Critique (Sorta), Referrals to My Favourite Self-Help Gurus, and a Plea To Salon. Again. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32962 I Don’t Have Time for A Mid-life Crisis Because I Just Got Cable. A Social Critique (Sorta), Referrals to My Favourite Self-Help Gurus, and a Plea To Salon. Again. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. Thu, 28 Oct 2010 18:15:13 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/#comment-32962 [...] Salon. I lovehate you so much. Why do you spurn my imaginary advances? We should be together. You LOVE caustic critique and eclectic personal voice. I’m a social [...] [...] Salon. I lovehate you so much. Why do you spurn my imaginary advances? We should be together. You LOVE caustic critique and eclectic personal voice. I’m a social [...]

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]]> By: How To Train Your Dragon (and Unleash It, Too) | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-30682 How To Train Your Dragon (and Unleash It, Too) | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. Sun, 25 Apr 2010 06:47:23 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/#comment-30682 [...] But when we go places – big social, public places – as a family, I get a little self-conscious. I’m conscious that we’re three people and not four. I’m conscious that we’re not all the same colour and that means something big to people with small minds. I’m conscious that scuffed shoes and mismatched clothes don’t signal “let’s her children make their own decisions” so much as “inattentive single white mom who’s not taking care of her brown kids.” [...] [...] But when we go places – big social, public places – as a family, I get a little self-conscious. I’m conscious that we’re three people and not four. I’m conscious that we’re not all the same colour and that means something big to people with small minds. I’m conscious that scuffed shoes and mismatched clothes don’t signal “let’s her children make their own decisions” so much as “inattentive single white mom who’s not taking care of her brown kids.” [...]

]]> By: Kelly Diels . com http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-193 Kelly Diels . com Thu, 10 Sep 2009 17:21:39 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/#comment-193 <strong>Guest Post at Raising My Boychick: We Will Braid Our Way To Revolution, Baby</strong> If you're looking for me today - and I hope you are, because you're here, and yay! for that - I'm over at Raising My Boychick, writing about: wishing my kids were turtles; hair (AGAIN, because dammit, it is IMPORTANT and POLITICAL); implicitly, white privilege; and the healing, war-ing power of words. Yeah, baby.So please go there now, and read it. Please. I'll be your best friend forever.And while you're there, take a look at Arwyn's razor-sharp, bleedingly joyous blog about her feminist thoughts on parenting a presumably straight white male. ... Guest Post at Raising My Boychick: We Will Braid Our Way To Revolution, Baby

If you’re looking for me today – and I hope you are, because you’re here, and yay! for that – I’m over at Raising My Boychick, writing about: wishing my kids were turtles; hair (AGAIN, because dammit, it is IMPORTANT and POLITICAL); implicitly, white privilege; and the healing, war-ing power of words. Yeah, baby.So please go there now, and read it. Please. I’ll be your best friend forever.And while you’re there, take a look at Arwyn’s razor-sharp, bleedingly joyous blog about her feminist thoughts on parenting a presumably straight white male. …

]]> By: Kelly Diels . com http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-192 Kelly Diels . com Wed, 09 Sep 2009 22:21:07 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/#comment-192 <strong>On Harm, Healing, Ceilings and How Absent Apologies are the Pits - The Sorry Series, #1</strong> When I was eight or nine, my mother grievously injured my fragile soul. She may have asked me to clean my room. Possibly she made me put down my Nancy Drew to wash dishes. In all likelihood, she gave me grief for sassing her. [Note to self: there is a lesson here. This dynamic - my unrepentant, inevitable and perennial backtalk and my mother's attempt to curb it - was the mainstay of our relationship, I believe, and a lesson in the frustration and futility of attempting to alter another's temperament and inclination. ... On Harm, Healing, Ceilings and How Absent Apologies are the Pits – The Sorry Series, #1

When I was eight or nine, my mother grievously injured my fragile soul. She may have asked me to clean my room. Possibly she made me put down my Nancy Drew to wash dishes. In all likelihood, she gave me grief for sassing her. [Note to self: there is a lesson here. This dynamic – my unrepentant, inevitable and perennial backtalk and my mother’s attempt to curb it – was the mainstay of our relationship, I believe, and a lesson in the frustration and futility of attempting to alter another’s temperament and inclination. …

]]> By: Kelly Diels . com http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-191 Kelly Diels . com Wed, 02 Sep 2009 05:56:34 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/#comment-191 <strong>On Harm, Healing, Ceilings and How Absent Apologies are the Pits</strong> When I was eight or nine, my mother grievously injured my fragile soul. She may have asked me to clean my room. Possibly she made me put down my Nancy Drew to wash dishes. In all likelihood, she gave me grief for sassing her. [Note to self: there is a lesson here. This dynamic - my unrepentant, inevitable and perennial backtalk and my mother's attempt to curb it - was the mainstay of our relationship, I believe, and a lesson in the frustration and futility of attempting to alter another's temperament and inclination. ... On Harm, Healing, Ceilings and How Absent Apologies are the Pits

When I was eight or nine, my mother grievously injured my fragile soul. She may have asked me to clean my room. Possibly she made me put down my Nancy Drew to wash dishes. In all likelihood, she gave me grief for sassing her. [Note to self: there is a lesson here. This dynamic – my unrepentant, inevitable and perennial backtalk and my mother’s attempt to curb it – was the mainstay of our relationship, I believe, and a lesson in the frustration and futility of attempting to alter another’s temperament and inclination. …

]]> By: Kelly Diels . com http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-190 Kelly Diels . com Wed, 02 Sep 2009 05:49:28 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/#comment-190 <strong>On Harm, Healing, Ceilings and How Absent Apologies are the Pits</strong> When I was eight or nine, my mother grievously injured my fragile soul. She may have asked me to clean my room. Possibly she made me put down my Nancy Drew to wash dishes. In all likelihood, she gave me grief for sassing her. [Note to self: there is a lesson here. This dynamic - my unrepentant, inevitable and perennial backtalk and my mother's attempt to curb it - was the mainstay of our relationship, I believe, and a lesson in the frustration and futility of attempting to alter another's temperament and inclination. ... On Harm, Healing, Ceilings and How Absent Apologies are the Pits

When I was eight or nine, my mother grievously injured my fragile soul. She may have asked me to clean my room. Possibly she made me put down my Nancy Drew to wash dishes. In all likelihood, she gave me grief for sassing her. [Note to self: there is a lesson here. This dynamic – my unrepentant, inevitable and perennial backtalk and my mother’s attempt to curb it – was the mainstay of our relationship, I believe, and a lesson in the frustration and futility of attempting to alter another’s temperament and inclination. …

]]> By: Julie http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-189 Julie Sat, 29 Aug 2009 00:18:08 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/#comment-189 I stumbled on the SLS debate in shampoo last year. Ever check your soaps and bubble bath? SLS is what makes it bubble. Most shampoos and soaps are one ingredient shy of being toxic. In the name of Mother Earth, I have sacrificed my children's financial future in my year long quest for bath products that won't kill us. Now I discover that women excreting estrogen due to birth control are contributing to the demise of the fish population. Sooo, either we procreate like bunnies or we abstain, all in the name of saving fish? I don't even like seafood. I stumbled on the SLS debate in shampoo last year. Ever check your soaps and bubble bath? SLS is what makes it bubble. Most shampoos and soaps are one ingredient shy of being toxic. In the name of Mother Earth, I have sacrificed my children’s financial future in my year long quest for bath products that won’t kill us. Now I discover that women excreting estrogen due to birth control are contributing to the demise of the fish population. Sooo, either we procreate like bunnies or we abstain, all in the name of saving fish? I don’t even like seafood.

]]> By: Beth L. Gainer http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-188 Beth L. Gainer Thu, 27 Aug 2009 23:51:08 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/#comment-188 You are an excellent writer (I'd italicize "are," but I don't think italics are available in comment boxes).<br /><br />I'm sure the Sunlight-being-the-best-shampoo was the result of a study done by the makers of Sunlight. LOL<br /><br />Your discussion about your biracial kids being perceived as cute because they are biracial hit home. I just adopted a Chinese baby, and these children are all the rage -- they are called China dolls by, like, everyone. ARGHHHHH You are an excellent writer (I’d italicize “are,” but I don’t think italics are available in comment boxes).

I’m sure the Sunlight-being-the-best-shampoo was the result of a study done by the makers of Sunlight. LOL

Your discussion about your biracial kids being perceived as cute because they are biracial hit home. I just adopted a Chinese baby, and these children are all the rage — they are called China dolls by, like, everyone. ARGHHHHH

]]> By: Beth L. Gainer http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/26/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-187 Beth L. Gainer Thu, 27 Aug 2009 23:45:39 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/the-politics-of-hair-and-how-salon-just-ruined-my-life-pity-the-children/#comment-187 Excellent posting, Kelly!! I really enjoyed reading it, although I wonder if the makers of Sunlight did the study that said Sunlight was the safest to use.<br /><br />LOL Excellent posting, Kelly!! I really enjoyed reading it, although I wonder if the makers of Sunlight did the study that said Sunlight was the safest to use.

LOL

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