Comments on: On Flaws, Insecurities, Vulnerability and Why Perfection is the Enemy. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:39:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Cleavage, A Primer (Or a Refresher) | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-39226 Cleavage, A Primer (Or a Refresher) | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. Mon, 27 May 2013 18:10:06 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-39226 [...] upon a time, I lurked on university campuses doing political sciencey things. This meant I talked a lot and read a lot and drank a lot [...]

]]> By: Why I Write About Sex (and why aren't YOU?). A meditation, really. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-37040 Why I Write About Sex (and why aren't YOU?). A meditation, really. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. Wed, 20 Feb 2013 03:07:33 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-37040 [...] it was Christmas vacation of my first year of University and I had to work. So I reluctantly dressed and dragged myself to my job at a trucking company [...]

]]> By: Happiness is not a fish you can catch. Nor is it a pant size. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-36184 Happiness is not a fish you can catch. Nor is it a pant size. Mon, 09 Jan 2012 04:06:00 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-36184 [...] into tight dresses and high heels at these clubs speak of the beginnings of a descent into the maddening pursuit that is perfection. They are reinforcing that you can’t be beautiful unless you’re the status quo. I hate [...]

]]> By: What I least expect from the internet « http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-33635 What I least expect from the internet « Tue, 15 Feb 2011 22:18:00 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-33635 [...] the failure of being a single mama in the midst of married coupledom – was to be seamless. Perfect. Superwoman. Need-free. And at the same time, I was generous. I’d take my friend’s son for the [...]

]]> By: love is ugly #LoveSparks | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-33593 love is ugly #LoveSparks | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. Mon, 14 Feb 2011 07:07:26 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-33593 [...] the failure of being a single mama in the midst of married coupledom – was to be seamless. Perfect. Superwoman. [...]

]]> By: On Risk, Relationships and GD Patriarchy. A Polemic. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-30194 On Risk, Relationships and GD Patriarchy. A Polemic. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. Thu, 22 Apr 2010 17:15:12 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-30194 [...] and ideas, and if you’re lucky enough to be surrounded by uberliberal, progressive, smart, thinking people, then the very structures of relationships get talked about, questioned and negotiated. Then, if [...]

]]> By: Happiness is not a fish. Nor is it a pant size. | violetminded http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-15902 Happiness is not a fish. Nor is it a pant size. | violetminded Tue, 02 Mar 2010 07:54:38 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-15902 [...] into tight dresses and high heels at these clubs speak of the beginnings of a descent into the maddening pursuit that is perfection. They are reinforcing that you can’t be beautiful unless you’re the status quo. I hate [...]

]]> By: Kelly Diels . com http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-385 Kelly Diels . com Sun, 04 Oct 2009 07:39:26 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-385 The Secret of Life

I spent seven years studying politics and philosophy at a university on the West Coast. This means that when I grew tired of chasing parchment, frames and funny hats, I grew accustomed to servicing a buoyant and cheerfully resilient student loan while working for Good Causes for Very Little Money. I was changing the world.This means I have, a time or two, been on very intimate terms with outrage. Outrage is a sloppy, seductive gig. Ask Michael Moore. I’ve seen a film or two (or all of them) by Michael Moore. Like pot, they’re basically …

]]> By: Lindsey http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-384 Lindsey Tue, 04 Aug 2009 15:07:20 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-384 I could not agree more, and you put it more beautifully than I ever could. I just wrote this week about the impossibility of every knowing the depths of the hearts of others – and I think often about how it is the flaws and private pains and scars that I know about that make me love those I love the best.
Thank you for writing this.

]]> By: Julie http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-383 Julie Tue, 04 Aug 2009 09:00:13 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/on-flaws-insecurities-vulnerability-and-why-perfection-is-the-enemy/#comment-383 I love my girlfriends even more when they tell me their deep dark innermost feelings. A true friend revealing flaws is so endearing because they give us permission to forgive ourselves for our own faults and imperfections. They bond us.

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