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]]> http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/08/04/love-the-romantic-drive-new-relationship-energy-and-married-men/comment-page-1/#comment-381 Kaylea Cross Tue, 04 Aug 2009 21:40:32 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/08/love-the-romantic-drive-new-relationship-energy-and-married-men/#comment-381 Wow, Kelly. Ouch! I've had lots of friends that have had a similar experience, only the wives weren't that understanding. When I took anthropology in university, one of the theories we studied stressed that monogomy is a very unnatural state. Especially for men. The theory argued that women are born with a finite number of eggs and were instinctively protective of them--unwilling to share them without some sort of a connection to their mate. This had to do with the fact that humans were hunter-gatherers at that period in history. Women needed to be able to depend on a man to protect them and their offspring, and provide for them. The argument now, of course, is that women are able to do that for themselves, which makes monogomy even harder to maintain. As a romance author (cough), I understand this intellectually, but emotionally I need and want that bond between the hero and heroine. And I want it in my own life. But that's just me. Communication is the most important part of a relationship, along with trust. Without those, we don't have a prayer of making it work. Just my opinion!<br />Kaylea Cross Wow, Kelly. Ouch! I’ve had lots of friends that have had a similar experience, only the wives weren’t that understanding. When I took anthropology in university, one of the theories we studied stressed that monogomy is a very unnatural state. Especially for men. The theory argued that women are born with a finite number of eggs and were instinctively protective of them–unwilling to share them without some sort of a connection to their mate. This had to do with the fact that humans were hunter-gatherers at that period in history. Women needed to be able to depend on a man to protect them and their offspring, and provide for them. The argument now, of course, is that women are able to do that for themselves, which makes monogomy even harder to maintain. As a romance author (cough), I understand this intellectually, but emotionally I need and want that bond between the hero and heroine. And I want it in my own life. But that’s just me. Communication is the most important part of a relationship, along with trust. Without those, we don’t have a prayer of making it work. Just my opinion!
Kaylea Cross

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