Trying to be cool. Cool. Cool and me – well, we’re not the same. Cool is unaffected, poker face, no visible effort, opting out, being self-involved, and dressing in black (I dress in black but that is because it is suppposed to be slimming hahahahahhaha). Cool is not letting the effort show and/or not being effected when the effort fails. Give me a mofo break.
When women complain about the men who are trying too hard, it is because we LOVE it.
Ok, maybe that is just me.
But so what? So what if she thinks you’re trying too hard?
I have a friend who does not care if a woman is into him or not. (He claims he can’t tell. Bullshit.) If he likes her, he approaches and pursues her. He tries. That, my darlings, is ballsy and makes him the second sexiest man alive. (Top spot is held by my imaginary boyfriend Dr. John Helliwell.) I suspect that he gets laid a lot, and that there is a direct, positive correlation between trying too hard and success.
Don’t believe me? Make a list of people you admire, who are wildly successful, and who plant trees and save drowning kittens in their spare time. Now go read their biographies, and send me the page number where they say “I would have been more successful if only I hadn’t tried too hard” or “My biggest regret is that I tried too hard.”
I humbly submit to you that in the recent playoffs Vancouverites would have publicly stoned Roberto Luongo if he said “My game plan tonight is to just take it easy and not try too hard.”
Do we tell our children “Stop trying so hard?”
[If you do, please send me the name and particulars of your children so I can add them to my List of Kids We Don't Play With.]
Next post: Do or Do Not, There is No Try – the Wisdom of Yoda
Just kidding. Actually my next post, due to popular request, will be the List of Kids We Don’t Play With. It is a public service announcement. I do what I can.
You and I both know whose children have made this list’s top 10, along with the child who kicked my child in the face outside of your house, the child who double fistted punched another kid on our playground and finally by the child who peed facing my house and onto the barkmulch (please note these are all boys) ahem ahem hahahaha.
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You’re so uptight. What have you got against violence and public urination?
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Hey, some boys aren’t that bad! I like to think Tristan is pretty good 70% of the time… and you just wait until the teenage years my friends, you will be wishing that Y chromosome was present.
I definitely don’t think you can try too hard, I think you can hardly try make things hard and trying. I think people that say this were just trying to wear too many hats at one time and you can’t truly be yourself that way.
Men try to wear way too many on a first date: the strong/masculine, the caring/sensitive, the stable/successful, the sexy/romantic…. and what happens is he is too preoccupied with this that he forgets: to brush his teeth, match his shoes and possibly the woman’s name… mission failed, woman is turned off.
Everyone does this, I have tried to wear the Martha Stewart, Mary Poppins, Hilalry Clinton and porn star hat at the same time… not pretty…
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