If you read women’s magazines, or blogs, or really just the written word in any form, you might think that single moms have it hard when it comes to dating. You would be wrong.
I think the idea is that single mothers are somehow less desirable because they have children and it is harder to find time to date because they have children.
The first point is bullshit, in my experience, because most adults – male and female – my age have kids. This is reality, and I have also found that most adults my age are also more than passingly acquainted with reality. Yay, adults!
The second point is true. And this is WONDERFUL.
Being a single mother is the single greatest thing to have happened to my dating life, because it makes me answer two ruthless questions. I am normally not ruthless, but ruthless is my new magic. The two magic, ruthless questions are these:
- Is spending time with this person worth spending time away from my children?
- Would I want my children to spend time with this person?
The answer to both questions must be yes. That’s all. Ruthless. Elegant. True.
Amen. Ruthless looks good on you.
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