Comments on: The Naked, Skinny Truth http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/05/29/the-naked-skinny-truth/ Cleavage is about the three things everyone wants more of: sex, money and meaning. Kelly Diels is writing through the lines that shape us. Sat, 31 Jul 2010 21:44:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: A Love Letter to Dave Doolin (@websiteweekend). I mean, Blog Post Engineering. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/05/29/the-naked-skinny-truth/comment-page-1/#comment-31164 A Love Letter to Dave Doolin (@websiteweekend). I mean, Blog Post Engineering. | Cleavage by Kelly Diels. Wed, 05 May 2010 18:34:42 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/05/the-naked-skinny-truth/#comment-31164 [...] old pieces, for example, are pretty good, and they’ve been read by six people: me, my mother, my sisters, Heather and [...] [...] old pieces, for example, are pretty good, and they’ve been read by six people: me, my mother, my sisters, Heather and [...]

]]> By: kellydiels http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/05/29/the-naked-skinny-truth/comment-page-1/#comment-23804 kellydiels Mon, 29 Mar 2010 03:19:34 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/05/the-naked-skinny-truth/#comment-23804 <a href="#comment-23801" rel="nofollow">@Jesse</a>, Jesse, your point is exactly why I ran this piece. Body shaming is body shaming, no matter what size we are. Talking about body image - and about men and women - one of my fave writers, John Devore, said that "becoming comfortable in one’s own skin is not a gender specific odyssey." I think that's true in another context: becoming comfortable in your skin is not a size-specific odyssey. What I've learned from the women around me - most of whom are teeny-tiny fit folk - is that we've all got our own fires to fight. It would be nice if we helped calm them, together, instead of throwing gas at the flames. I wish women weren't resenting you. I wish we could all just love each other, fat, thin and in-between. Jesse, thanks so much for your comment. I'm so glad you joined in, here. @Jesse, Jesse, your point is exactly why I ran this piece. Body shaming is body shaming, no matter what size we are.

Talking about body image – and about men and women – one of my fave writers, John Devore, said that “becoming comfortable in one’s own skin is not a gender specific odyssey.”

I think that’s true in another context: becoming comfortable in your skin is not a size-specific odyssey.

What I’ve learned from the women around me – most of whom are teeny-tiny fit folk – is that we’ve all got our own fires to fight. It would be nice if we helped calm them, together, instead of throwing gas at the flames.

I wish women weren’t resenting you. I wish we could all just love each other, fat, thin and in-between.

Jesse, thanks so much for your comment. I’m so glad you joined in, here.

]]> By: Jesse http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/05/29/the-naked-skinny-truth/comment-page-1/#comment-23801 Jesse Mon, 29 Mar 2010 03:07:38 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/05/the-naked-skinny-truth/#comment-23801 I have to jump in. I'm 5'9" and 126 - 131 pounds. I am just plain skinny although a lot of days I feel like I have a big ass, but that's my hang up. It doesn't make sense, I know. I don't have a lot of - make that any - curves. If I wear my hair short, I look like a guy from a distance. It is impossible to find a bathing suit the doesn't make me look like a 16 yr old girl who happens to have graying hair and wrinkles. I walk, ski a lot, and golf, but I'm not terribly fit. I have skated on exercise my whole life, because I haven't needed to, in order to be slim. Women are always telling me to put more potatoes on my plate. They tell me I'm too angular. I have my mom's metabolism. All her life she has had people ask her if she has cancer, because she's so thin. It's funny because there is an underlying tone of resentment in conversations with women. Women assume that I watch what I eat, and then they are appalled when I eat potato chips or brownies. A couple years ago, I ran into an old friend who had just found out that I was recently divorced, and she said, "Geez, I thought all the thin girls were the happy ones." I have to jump in. I’m 5′9″ and 126 – 131 pounds. I am just plain skinny although a lot of days I feel like I have a big ass, but that’s my hang up. It doesn’t make sense, I know. I don’t have a lot of – make that any – curves. If I wear my hair short, I look like a guy from a distance. It is impossible to find a bathing suit the doesn’t make me look like a 16 yr old girl who happens to have graying hair and wrinkles. I walk, ski a lot, and golf, but I’m not terribly fit. I have skated on exercise my whole life, because I haven’t needed to, in order to be slim. Women are always telling me to put more potatoes on my plate. They tell me I’m too angular. I have my mom’s metabolism. All her life she has had people ask her if she has cancer, because she’s so thin. It’s funny because there is an underlying tone of resentment in conversations with women. Women assume that I watch what I eat, and then they are appalled when I eat potato chips or brownies.
A couple years ago, I ran into an old friend who had just found out that I was recently divorced, and she said, “Geez, I thought all the thin girls were the happy ones.”

]]> By: Jen http://www.kellydiels.com/2009/05/29/the-naked-skinny-truth/comment-page-1/#comment-730 Jen Thu, 11 Jun 2009 02:13:34 +0000 http://www.violetminded.com/test/index.php/2009/05/the-naked-skinny-truth/#comment-730 This is a really interesting article and very funny! This is a really interesting article and very funny!

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