I am a risk-taker in relationships. In addition to being a risk-taker, I’m doggedly committed and don’t give up on a teetering romance until I’m well and truly and certainly done with it. As a result, my friends, family – and, I’m sure, more than one potential suitor – sigh and shudder and worry and are not-so-secretly convinced that I put myself on the line because I’m lonely, fat, a single mom and therefore should be lacking in self-esteem due to my apparent unfuckability (oh, if only y’all knew) and desperation for the security of a relationship. …

I’ve been thinking about sex.Hey. You were too, so just keep that judgment in check.[Note: if you are my mother, you should probably stop reading right about now. Two lines ago would have been even better.]I’ve been thinking about feminism, the sexual revolution, rainbow parties, love, Girls Gone Wild, sexual empowerment, and who I am, really.It suddenly occurred to me – and pardon me if this should have been patently obvious by now – that an important part of being a sexually liberated, empowered woman who truly owns her sexuality is the freedom to be non-sexual. …

I’ve been thinking about sex.Hey. You were too, so just keep that judgment in check.[Note: if you are my mother, you should probably stop reading right about now. Two lines ago would have been even better.]I’ve been thinking about feminism, the sexual revolution, rainbow parties, love, Girls Gone Wild, sexual empowerment, and who I am, really.It suddenly occurred to me – and pardon me if this should have been patently obvious by now – that an important part of being a sexually liberated, empowered woman who truly owns her sexuality is the freedom to be non-sexual. …

I’ve been thinking about sex.Hey. You were too, so just keep that judgment in check.[Note: if you are my mother, you should probably stop reading right about now. Two lines ago would have been even better.]I’ve been thinking about feminism, the sexual revolution, rainbow parties, love, Girls Gone Wild, sexual empowerment, and who I am, really.It suddenly occurred to me – and pardon me if this should have been patently obvious by now – that an important part of being a sexually liberated, empowered woman who truly owns her sexuality is the freedom to be non-sexual. …